Should my children come home from dads?!

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I need advice - just like everyone else !

I am 34 weeks pregnant

My kids have been at their dads for just over 2 weeks due to him taking them out the country - they have not been ill.

They have not needed to isolate and both dad and partner have been going to work etc

They are due to come back to me Monday but now I've been told that I need to isolate and he has heard that he needs to keep them now as none of them are isolating so it's not safe for them to come home

I've spoken to my midwife and she has said it's up to me but obviously they can't be going back and forth between houses etc

So what do I do ?!! I've never been apart from them this long

Why can’t they go back and forth? Mine are. Both houses isolating, we’re treating it as one big household

Because they're not isolating - they haven't been told to, but I have to

If you have to then they stay put.

Personally, I would be having my babies home no matter what. Infected or not. You are pregnant so I understand you are cautious but that’s just my opinion.

Why do you have to isolate?

Pregnancy related - been advised to limit contact especially as im so near the end.

If the kids are back and forth between houses and in their house they still working etc then there is the potential that they could bring something home and give it to me

Everything is so up in the air and no one knows what's for best

Unless your ex is self isolating too then it's highly likely the dc should be going between the two houses. I'd bite the bullet and tell your ex to keep the dc. You can still phone and FaceTime them

Yeah he's refusing to self isolate as he doesn't need to - obviously if Boris says we all have to go on lock down then he will

You have been advised to socially distance. Under your circumstances how far you can do that is limited. You can’t expect your ex to isolate to support this or to reduce contact with the kids.

Exactly ! So do the kids stay with him where they can still go about day to day or do they come home and isolate with me ?!

It's an impossibly situation and not one I thought I'd ever be in

I would leave the children with their other parent. Especially as they're not isolating.
I'm sorry that's a hard decision, but it's for the good of the children.

Surely as none of you have any symptoms the kids come and go until one of you shows symptoms and the kids stay put.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and haven't been told to self isolate. I'm Social distancing but my kids are still at school and bringing potential germs back every day. None of us have any symptoms so our 50/50 contact will carry on until we hear any other or one of us becomes unwell

I've told my ex my kids are gunna be staying here for the foreseeable. Him and his partner are both working, I'm off work, so I'd rather keep them here rather than risk passing anything backwards and forwards. He's happy with that and so are my kids

If they have zero symptoms then I see no issue as to why they can't come home.

As children in this uncertain times, if you don't have them come home you run the risk of them thinking your putting this baby ahead of their own needs.

If there were symptoms then it's different but I don't think you're being fair to your DC if they don't come home.

They either stay put or some to you and stay put but you are 34 weeks pregnant which means you will have your baby within the next 8 weeks. What will you do with your children when you are having your baby? I suspect the current situation will last beyond your pregnancy so I would leave them where they are.