Tears for our y11

[Janemarpling]

Ok it's not life or death.

But the hard work and value of 2 years deserve recognition.

I have had several frantic students email me tonight.
The not knowing is the worst.

Wow I was strong until that email. From the heart.

Sorry to all hardworking y11.

Many Y11s and Y13s will be so worried tonight. They are going to need lots of support and reassurance and the government must get this right for them in terms of what happens.

I have a Y11 and a yr 13 dc. There have been lots of tear in our household tonight. yes, not life or death, I am a doctor in the NHS so I get this whole thing, but for tonight Im broken hearted for my DC.

My daughter in year 11 is not worried. They are all in the same boat...

Many are devastated. Had a few emails.

Its sad as I never realised it would be our last lesson.

Yes it is sad. My daughters are in year 11 and year 6. They are now having to accept that they never got to finish at their schools properly and say goodbye.

my DD has cried herself to sleep....she did very badly in her mocks in November which have been used as predicted grades...her dad has been ill over the summer an in hospital for months, i hadnt appreciated the impact until her results, she is slowly picking up having focussed mainly on her sciences and has already jumped three grades...however if they use predicted she wont have a sixth form to go to.... she has always managed to pull it out the bag but this time she wont be given the opportunity

I really feel for them. Older people have had many knocks over many decades, so we're used to it, and can have increased perspective. It must be hard when you're young and such a large part of your life has been working towards something that's now just gone suddenly in the space of a few seconds of a speech.

Same here . DD in year 13, she put so much effort into her A levels. Photography in particular. She is gutted tonight.

She also did so much better than her mock grades in Year 11. It's such an effing mess.

Same here with my Yr11 DD. She's not a natural academic and her mocks were a bit rubbish (her words) and were a reality check. She has worked so very hard since and has dragged her maths from a 2 to 4 grade in her last set of tests. Her predicted grade is a 3 but she would do better in the main exam. She also had an exam retake to do to push her btec grade up which I guess now won't count. She's terrified she won't get her 6th form place. Also no prom, no leavers yearbook, no full on exam experience to base future a levels on... its rubbish.

Leaving Y11 andY13 (and Y6!) are such special times. All the proms, leaving ceremonies, goodbyes etc etc. It's heartbreaking that so many will be robbed of that.
(before anyone jumps down my throat- I KNOW it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things, but we can be sad for them too).

But it DOES matter, and it's not fair to the kids to pretend it doesn't. Being sad that you're not getting to sit your exams or go to prom doesn't mean you're not worried about your parents' livelihood and your grandparents' health. It's shitty of any parent to try to shame their kids by shutting down their natural feelings of disappointment.

SamSeabornforPresident I completely agree- but I've seen a lot of people on here jump on people for bemoaning anything!
I hope no parents have been actually shutting their kids down. Their feelings are valid.

As a y6 teacher it feels very strange that effectively the last time I teach my class could be Friday. We can't treat it like the end of the year (they will be hyper as it is!) but it could be realistically considered possible that we won't see them again yet without them being able to say goodbye and finish primary properly with all the lovely things that go with it.

The year 6s have really got to me, my son is only year 5 but my daughter left primary last year and that last half term were the best memories of her life. I feel so sad for the current year 6 who now won't get to experience that. Of course it is devastating for the year 11s and 13s who won't finish school properly either and they must be so stressed about the future, but it is the year 6s that are making me feel so sad tonight.

I found myself sobbing that dd2 won’t get her lovely year 6 end of primary. She and all the children were so excited. So so sorry for the year 11s and 13s too. It’s truly shit.

This is so sad. A lost generation if they dont give correct grades.

my DD has cried herself to sleep....she did very badly in her mocks in November which have been used as predicted grades..

Which predicted grades though? I thought exam boards were sent predictions to an early May deadline. Does that still happen?

This could all go very wrong and I hope very careful thought is given to how to set the exam years up for fair and reliable 'results'. Stress test it on roleplaying litigious parents or employers pretending to be looking at applicants from 2019, 2020 and 2021 in X years time.

I'm devastated for my year 11 daughter. 😭

Yeah my DS too - due to sit A levels. I feel he's been robbed tbh. Robbed of he chance to to do he exams he's worked so hard for, and robbed of the chance to prove himself.