Pull toddler out of nursery due to at risk husband

[Chester1980]

I posted a few days ago about my asthmatic husband. Things have changed since then. The government now officially says that people with conditions such as asthma should socially distance. My husband and I are both v lucky that our work have allowed us to work from home.

However, our toddler is in nursery...and I know that’s a hotbed for spreading illnesses. I don’t know if I should take her out as a precaution to my husband. Just for a few months. But then I am worried about impacting her development, socialising etc. I don’t want it to be too traumatic when she goes back.

I’m so torn!! What you think?

Bump

Take her out
I work in a nursery and feel that if we stay open it should be for the nhs staff and other key workers
Your husbands health is more important than your daughters social development

Ive had the same issue, i am asthmatic and have 3 yr old and 1 yr old, 3 yr old has autism and goes to a special needs nursery and a autism specialist pre school, her speical needa nursery has closed due to high number of high risk children but autism pre school is open and we have decided to take her out. Been really difficult decision as its going to be really difficult having her home she is non verbal so doesnt understand whats going on and im not able to tell her she isnt going to pre school. I just would rather be 100% that we dont catch it

I took my son out of nursery because I'm pregnant. I found the decision very hard and was sort of waiting for someone to make it for me, but once they stopped testing and we didn't know how many were in the community, that's what did it for me (we're in an area where we had some of the first cases).

I did feel bad, but it's starting to wear off. Our son loves nursery. He has a little friend there and you only need to get in the car and he's saying his name over and over. Ordinarily we'd have to drive a different route as he'd cry if we drove past and didn't go in. However, we've been in a lot and strangely he hasn't even said his little friend's name, which is really unusual.

I feel bad on the one hand as he loves the social aspect. But we got loads of craft supplies in and books etc, and a little table and chairs. It is a bomb site in our living room though!

DP still has to go to work but only interacts with a handful of people. I think I'd rather keep DS out for the foreseeable than run the risk of bringing it home. I know they say children are fine, but this virus has only been around since Christmas. I don't want anyone getting it if we can help it.

I work from home so have to wait until my partner gets back to get the work done.

I’m keeping mine at nursery. It’s pre-school, so only 3hrs. They wash hands regularly and nobody is allowed in with even a sniffle at the moment.

These things are a balance and ultimately come down to personal choice. I’m happy to continue to send. Our chances of becoming seriously ill from this are very low.

Slightly different question.
Dh is in a high risk group.
His grandson is 2 and at a private nursery which we think will be closing soon due to this. Have a feeling we’ll be asked to mind dgs.
I don’t want to, due to risk for dh. Can’t decide whether I’m worrying over nothing, or right to say no and risk a big fall out with stepdaughter.

Thank you for your responses. This is my gut feeling too. I had pretty much decided to take him out until MIL said to my husband that it’s not going to be good for him.

And a v good point in the emergency services. I don’t want him spreading it to others either who may need the facility.

The nursery have reassured me that they wash their hands and deep clean all the time....but how do you stop a toddler touching people, touching their mouth etc? He’s only 16 months, so doesn’t have enough understanding.

Me and DH will do 3 hour working shifts to look after him while the other works

It’s a shame your step-daughter is heeding the very well-publicised advice about keeping vulnerable older people isolated. To ask her father to look after the child would be very irresponsible. It’s breaking my heart at the moment to keep my parents separated from my children but it’s for their own good.

NOT heeding, obviously.

@TheGirlFromStoryville your DH shouldn’t be looking after DGS. You’re not worrying over nothing. This is about protecting you guys and others at risk

Take her out this is a no brainer for fucks sake