Ex husband using corona virus to not see children

[Everytimeiseeher]

Just the title really.....He has no elderly relatives, lives with his partner and has messaged me to to say he won’t be seeing the kids until further notice due to self isolating (which we are doing also) Is he taking the mick? Kids are teenagers and quite shocked.

Self isolating because he or his partner are unwell as per NHS guidelines? Or just because he's scared on catching it?

Doesn’t want to catch it. He was always a poor patient when ill and panicked about his health - if I had the cold he had a flu type of behaviour. Just typical man really.
I love my kids to bits but must be great to say nope I don’t want to see them.

That's crap then isn't it? Is he generally crap and likely to be looking for an excuse not to see them? Or do you think he's possibly just stressed and panicking? Everything is changing so fast at the moment and people are at different stages of getting their heads round it all. I've avoided a couple of conflicts with people by simply ignoring what they're saying and knowing they'll change their views quite soon. Hard to be left with the kids upset though Can he at least chat to them online?

Didn’t you say you are also self isolating?

He is just a lazy parent. To be honest the less time he spends with the kids the better so I should be glad. Not really any advice Angie can give it’s not what I’m after I’m just....wow really?

“messaged me to to say he won’t be seeing the kids until further notice due to self isolating (which we are doing also)”. I’m not disagreeing with him being a poor father, but if you are also self isolating?

@Thepigeonsarecoming yes we are attempting to as best I can. Working from home and no unnecessary social outings. Which means the kids would get in my car and dropped at his door and I’d pick them up a few hours later. The problem is they kids have a lot of friends do near him and he doesnt have the parental skills to say “no stay at home” as he is their friend not parent.

Under the circumstances, it's for the best. They need a parent now, not a friend.

Is you are self isolating your children should be staying at home. If they are going out and about to different households this isn’t self isolating

The problem is they kids have a lot of friends do near him and he doesnt have the parental skills to say “no stay at home” as he is their friend not parent.

So it's best they stay with you.
You're either isolating yourselves or not.

Easy to use it as a stick to beat him with but I actually think he’s being sensible. To me, no social contact is defined as anybody who doesn’t live in the house

@Everytimeiseeher you are keeping social distancing not self isolating

I think he is probably correct here. Travelling between two households is not self-isolating, even though his reasons for saying it could be open to question.