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WWYD? House Party on Saturday

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FreshPrince · 17/03/2020 23:19

My DD (17) was invited to a small house party (8 people) 4 weeks ago that is still going ahead this weekend. Obviously, within that time the coronavirus situation has changed massively, but DD still thinks she should be able to go as, in her words, they all catch the same bus to the same school and then go into the same classrooms as each other 10 inches apart and use then same germy computers Envy.
I'm torn on whether to let her go or not, her friends are all seeing this as maybe the last get together they get before the restrictions get tighter, and they're all feeling quite sorry for themselves because of all their plans for post a levels have gone down the drain in the last few weeks. However, I don't want her taking unnecessary risks and exposing herself when there is so little known about this virus and long term effects. Sad

WWYD?

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FruHagen · 17/03/2020 23:38

No way. Absolutely not.
I'm in lockdown in another country from the UK just for context.

DramaAlpaca · 17/03/2020 23:46

I'm in Ireland, so also in partial lockdown because lots of places have closed. If she was my DD there's no way she'd be going.

OchonAgusOchonO · 17/03/2020 23:49

I'm in Ireland too. My kids (22,19 and 17) are going nowhere. It sucks but you know what, life sucks.

MustShowDH · 17/03/2020 23:50

From your title, I thought it was you and I would have said no way, but if it's ONLY people she's mixing with anyway, I'd probably let her go. I'd probably drop her off and pick up though, so no temptation to go anywhere else.

MustShowDH · 17/03/2020 23:51

I'm in UK and my DD and her friends are also still in school

nonsenceagain · 17/03/2020 23:53

Of course not and the hosts should cancel it.

boatyardblues · 17/03/2020 23:54

I saw someone post on another thread that their friend had cancelled a much anticipated 60th birthday party but, in the cancellation message it was because they very much wanted everyone to still be around for their 61st. I know it’s a bit different if they mix in school, but the sentiment is the same: it’s one gathering. There will be others, many others, if we can ride out this storm.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 17/03/2020 23:55

I think small group, not in public, same people she is seeing at school anyway, the risk of additional spread is really low.

If it were a different group of non-school friends I would say no.

Whitelisbon · 17/03/2020 23:56

I have a 17yo dd who is seeing her last year at school rapidly lose all of its privileges too.
I'd let her go. Shes with them all day anyway, so what difference will it make?
However, I'd be pointing out that it's the last until restrictions are lifted, and, if any of them have symptoms, then itll be cancelled.
The next few months are going to be no fun at all, so let her have this one.

serialtester · 17/03/2020 23:58

No.

crustycrab · 18/03/2020 00:03

" I think small group, not in public, same people she is seeing at school anyway, the risk of additional spread is really low" Hmm

Doesn't matter what you think. You're wrong

Designerenvy · 18/03/2020 00:06

Social distancing ..... it would be a no from me.
Sorry, but public health is at risk. Your dd might be a young, fit 17 year old who would weather the virus well but what about those who she may pass it on to ? They may not be as fortunate.
No way .

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FreshPrince · 18/03/2020 00:13

The more I think about it the more sure I am on saying no, besides there's no telling if schools will still be open by Friday anyway.

I do feel bad for her though, in the past 6 months shes lost her grandad and been diagnosed with PCOS (Then having bad reactions to the medications) whilst still having to deal with all the other shit year 13 have to deal with. She was finally getting to a point where everything was getting okay again then this virus crops up and takes away the plans which have got her through the last few months Sad

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Septembe66 · 18/03/2020 00:17

I would have no problem letting her go. My DD is still in school and have no worries about her. As long as she knows the importance of hygiene surrounding it then I wouldn’t worry. More worried about all the parents that have taken their kids out of school in case they catch it but take them to the supermarket. Must have seen at least a dozen kids in Asda this morning. More likely to catch it there than anywhere else.

Notcontent · 18/03/2020 00:18

No! And schools will close soon anyway. Some near me have closed today.

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FreshPrince · 18/03/2020 00:22

I'm going to compromise with her, no party this weekend but if restrictions are no longer in place by August we'll let her have an (albeit 4 months late) birthday party in the garden. We've never allowed her to do this before, but at this point, I'd just like to give her some hope that life can't be rubbish forever

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Designerenvy · 18/03/2020 00:23

Sounds like a perfect compromise.

crustycrab · 18/03/2020 00:24

My god @Septembe66 it's not about the kids catching it or where they're more likely to catch it.

I honestly can see there's no hope for us Sad

Designerenvy · 18/03/2020 00:27

Exactly @crustycrab, people seem to miss the point. It's about who they can pass it on to .

Bubbinsmakesthree · 18/03/2020 00:37

Doesn't matter what you think. You're wrong

Why am I wrong? I didn’t say that it was risk-free. However if this is a close group of friends who have spent a lot of time together Mon-Fri at school, the additional transmission risk presented by spending an extra few hours together on Sat is not substantial.

If by Friday the schools have closed then it’s a different assessment.

DressingGownofDoom · 18/03/2020 00:39

Yeah, no. We might be on lockdown by then anyway.

Septembe66 · 18/03/2020 00:44

Well if it’s not about the kids catching it then what’s the post about??? That’s exactly what the op was on about. Exposing herself to the virus and the risks. We will all probably at some point be in contact with someone with the virus. It’s more about our own hygiene and making sure we are self aware about our personal risks and keeping ourself safe than where we go. My point was that people are taking kids our of school so they don’t contract it but will take them to public places where there is more risk of them being in contact with it. It’s all about personal hygiene.

TreacherousPissFlap · 18/03/2020 00:47

DS is not going to a friends party on Saturday. It's actually the first time we've ever prevented him from doing anything so he's torn between outrage and a sudden realisation as to how serious it really is.

But actually your DD does have a valid point Confused

Septembe66 · 18/03/2020 00:47

They won’t pass it in to anyone if they follow the proper guidelines and wash their hands properly and stay away from vulnerable people. So if they think there is a chance they might have it then stay away from anyone that might be likely to struggle to fight it off.

Derbee · 18/03/2020 01:02

You’ve never let her have a birthday party in the garden? Confused

I’d let her go, if it’s the people she’s socialising with in school anyway

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