Angry at my daughters attitude

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Should I be angry at my daughters attitude to the coronavirus. She is 18 and despite all the government warnings yesterday and today she would not listen to me about social distancing so has gone for 3 days to see a friend at Leeds uni. I tried to be fair but she knows that my mum who is 97 lives with us so if we caught the virus it could be a disaster.

Was I wrong to ask her to not go and am I wrong to be angry and a little upset she just Ignired me?

I will not be offended by any answers its just that my mind is just worrying about what happens when she gets back

Thanks

No, you weren't wrong at all. We've all got to pull together for the greater good and part of this is no unnecessary travel. I would have said 'Go if you want to. But I won't be able to let you back in the house for 14 days when you return.'

Can you quarantine her in a tent or a shed?

YANBU. She can disregard her own health all she likes but it’s a dick move to put a 97 year old at risk.

She’s very selfish. There are a lot of people like this about. And these people will cost the rest of us our lives.

YANBU. You were not at all in the wrong asking her not to go! Unfortunately, she's being very selfish and not thinking about your Mum. I wish people would listen to the advice 🤦🏽‍♀️

I've just seen a fb post of someone I know out in a restaurant with their whole large family

What will she do if we suddenly go into lockdown? They said no travel unless essential. I take that to mean internal and external.

She can put herself at risk as much as she likes, but coming home after being away in a place like a uni she's putting your mum at risk, a big risk at that. Yanbu to be really pissed at her, the other poster had it right. It's a dick move

Irresponsible and selfish.
I've biting my tongue over FB today, one lady I work with had two days out in a row, one founcng round the town and shopping, eating out and generally going all over with pictures, followed by today a coach trip to another city for a day out of shopping, and restaurants.
Tomorrow she will be at work looking after vulnerable old people and then wondering who the hell brought CV into the building, seeing with have banned all visitors and essential staff only allowed in after having temp taken and asked about any illnesses.
Irresponsible.

Do not let her return unless she can really effectively self quarantine at home. If you only have one bathroom etc it probably can't work. I would have been distraught at that age at the thought of putting a grandparent at risk. Not only that, putting others with varied medical needs at risk by causing a hospital bed to be taken just for the sake of her social life. Sorry you're dealing with this OP.

You must be furious. Can she be kept away from your mum when she returns? As in confined to her room or another part of the house. Ah the arrogance of youth. Selfish Madame. for you and your mum.

The young think they are invincible.
Sigh.

The only good thing is that we converted the garage to a little annexe when my dad died so she is separate but if course I look after her so if i got ill then I could pass it onto her without knowing..

I'm guessing though it would be like red rag to a bull if I was to whatsapp her tonight and tell her how I feel about her decision?

No, this is time for serious words to be had and for people to stop being bloody selfish. She might be fine but she'll have blood on her hands if she keeps thinking only of herself. She needs a reality check ASAP.

YANBU. I have four teenagers, they are all being pretty careful to protect dh who is high risk. Ds2 said he is no longer going to the Gym and Ds3 is just seeing his gf, no other friends. how long they will be bale to keep it up for though is another worry. thank god for social media !

Swap them round when she returns (dd in the annex and your Mum in the house) for the isolation period. Bloody little madam.

I get it. I have an 18 year old but she can't come back in the house when she gets back . She could literally kill your mother.

If be furious if she was mine and shed know about it