To find all these platitudes so annoying

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First of all I want to say I realize people have it so much worse at the moment and the focus is entirely on protecting the vulnerable.
This is just a rant that I can’t say in RL. Basically I’m in a country where they have closed all the schools and every childcare service with no idea when they will reopen. I think this is the right decision. I’m freelance and this year was the first year that things had massively picked up for me. After years of looking after babies / toddlers, not sleeping for years , I’m finally in a place where I’m working in a creative area I love . My dcs are settled in school, playschool etc. I’m currently down over a 1000 a month. I adore my children and have a good balance where I’m able to pick them up most days as I work 6am to 2.30 everyday.
I can’t work at all now ( my dh job is the type of job now that’s in the frontline and he is needed a lot). I’ve had to shelve all my projects. It’s not a job I can do with kids ( my youngest is 2) , I work as much as I can in the evenings. I’m keeping as positive as I can but reality is my job and time when kids were in school etc kept me sane, it made a huge difference to my life. I know it’s temporary but I’m sooooo Fckn sick of hearing “ oh not to worry, great time to sleep, catch up on hobbies, do yoga, spend time with your dcs” , I have three ds under 6.... they climb the walls in the house and are v, v energetic . Of course I can’t fckn chill. I’m down a thousand euros and we get these comments from childfree, family members who are in state jobs getting full pay and who are off for at least a month...
I get it’s nobodies fault and I’m making the best of it but I feel it’s ok for me to feel pissed off and a bit fed up. Sorry just had to get that out.

Totally ok to feel fed up and pissed off...We dont have it so bad yet but should our schools close my dd will be out in the garden on her trampoline and in the sand pit too ....nothing worse when kids are frustrated and climbing the walls! It makes things so much harder if they are bored as well. Fingers crossed its relatively short lived. May I suggest wine or gin or beer to numb your pain?!!!

I started a not dissimilar thread yesterday , though a bit opposite.

I absolutely despise my job and had made steps to get out of it. Got as far as being offered a role but obviously I cant change jobs in this climate (place I was offered is shut for foreseeable apart from anything)

My husband is likely to be mostly out of work for next 4 months and the knock on impact of that will take us far longer than 12/16/whatever weeks to recover from

Like you, last year everything seemed to be on the up and now it's just hideous.

On the days my DH gets work I'll have to obviously mind the kids but my own work also expect me to be working remotely during office hours and delivering 100% productivity.

We are very lucky that we are not at a health risk, but that doesnt mean that we cant mourn the trajectory we were on that has now been taken away and we are months away from having any hope of getting back on.

It's all awful, and it's ok to feel like you do xxxx

Sorry to hear about your situation. My family are the types that if you say anything negative respond with a “well at least you aren’t in Palestine etc” and Tbh I don’t constantly moan etc. I also have a friend who’s working a bit from home and doesn’t have kids who keeps sending me routines that in no way I can do , divided up with sleeping , lovely hobbies like craft stuff for adults. I sometimes think people seem to have no idea what life is like with small children. And before I had kids I had some understanding that people were a bit limited like. Sorry I’m just frustrated!!

Oh OP I really feel your pain!!! I will be in very a similar situation in all respects if/when our schools close. I know what you mean about not being able say this IRL because yes, it’s unavoidable and so many are so much worse off but hey, that doesn’t change how you/we feel and it is so stressful and soul destroying isn’t it? I wonder what the outcome will be in terms of the economy but also mental health after all this. I also love time with my boys and have never suffered mental health problems but if we are all in the house for weeks on end I honestly don’t know how I will cope mentally. It’s very very hard.

During the war people got through by supporting each other and a good community spirit. Isolation is altogether very very different. I’m kind of glad you made this meant thread so I can vent too!!!

Good luck, we will hopefully all survive and come out stronger. And I really am thinking of those worse off and regularly counting my blessings.

This is the thing, it’s the not knowing how long this will go on for and people making assumptions that it’s a good time to take a step back and spend some quality time with kids when fact is I already spend loads of time with them and have just come out of being a sahp!
We are lucky in that we live near some beautiful countryside so bringing them out as much as possible. But omg laughing at the idea of getting some extra rest and sleep