To expect partner to stand up to his boss and stay at home

[Jigglemonster]

Really not sure if I've lost the plot or my partner has;

I'm 30 weeks pregnant, currently working from home as a result of company measures for coronavirus. My partner was at work yesterday , they had been told up to then that it was business as usual except they were not allowed have any face to face meetings with clients (it's an office based job).

Fast forward to yesterday's announcements and it seems clear that I will have to socially isolate and need to take extra care, and therefore him spending 2 hours a day on tubes into the city exposes me to unnecessary germs.

Despite the news yesterday and the fact that they are not seeing any clients his company have insisted that everyone goes in. He called and emailed his boss yesterday to discuss his circumstances and ask to work from home and they refused.

AIBU to be annoyed with my partner for going in today and not making more of a fuss? Personally I wouldn't want to work for a company that clearly had no regard for their staff. I suggested he say I had a cough but he said at this stage he couldn't after discussing the situation with them.

I've said to him if he keeps going in he'll have to stay somewhere else otherwise it's pointless me isolating. So I'll be home alone and pregnant for the forseeable which isn't ideal.

Really interested to get other people's views on this.

no I don't mean I'd be making him feel guilty, it's not something I'd say to him. I just mean in the grand scheme of things what is more important

Your post definitely reads as if you are blaming your partner and in the event something happened to you or your unborn baby (God forbid) that you'd blame him. Sorry but that's just the way you are coming across. And that last bit about grand scheme of things? I'm sure your partner doesn't want to risk his job as you will need to be financially stable with a new baby. You aren't comprehending the government advise properly and I think you are a bit tunnel visioned and not seeing the real grand scheme.

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and have asthma, but my partner doesnt have the choice of working from home. At this point people in the vulnerable groups have'nt been told to self isolate just social distancing. You shouldnt need to completely cut yourself off, just make sure that proper hygiene and hand washing is in place.

I get that your worried but completely locking yourself down and panicking isnt going to help anyone. Also remember if he is staying at a friends for an unknown period of time that's one of your main areas of support lost to you, do you really want to be alone?

I wouldn't want him to risk his job, sorry OP. They're well within their rights to refuse. They could even say no to you if you worked there, though I doubt they'd want to take the risk in case it went wrong and you sued them.

Sorry OP.

I get that your worried but completely locking yourself down and panicking isnt going to help anyone

This is an excellent point