Should I stop TTC?!

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I have been TTC for the past few months. I don’t know if I should stop and wait?!

Is it mad to be thinking that way? Or would it be mad to TTC?

Anyone else in the same boat?

I've been thinking the same and given the inclusion today of pregnant women are included in the 'at risk' group we think we might stop for a month or two... I've just ovulated though so might be too late! I'm lucky in that both DH and I can wfh so don't need to go in.

Feeling quite sad about it 😢

No one knows what the next few weeks/months will bring and if they think pregnant women are more at risk then it might make for a very stressful pregnancy. Also, are you or your partners jobs likely to be affected?

Currently in the TWW. I was thinking of cooling it anyway for the next month to avoid a Christmas due date, so I think if this month has been unsuccessful we will be waiting until things are getting back in normal.

Our jobs are both safe(ish) - but who knows if there’s a huge recession about redundancies.

I feel really sad about it too - and am not young enough that I can wait a year and see (late 30s).

But I don’t want to get pregnant and for it all to get quite dangerous!

Sorry if I sound insensitive but why bring a child into this chaos if you can help it? Obviously for those who were already pregnant that's one thing, no one saw this coming & I am NOT speaking about them. We don't know how this will play out (NHS, economy etc) so if you can wait you probably should.

Yes, obviously. Why on earth would you want to bring a baby in to this shit storm??!! Just common sense.

DH and I were about to start trying for a second this month, but we agreed about two hours ago that it no longer seems like a good idea. I also feel sad - we've been umming and ahhing over whether to start trying again for a while now and I really felt like the time was right - but I do think it's the sensible choice.

I don't know how long we'll delay for. I'm only 32 but DS took us two years and three miscarriages so we are both worried that waiting too long could mean it never happens - but we're hoping that it'll at least be a slightly clearer picture in a few months, even if that picture is a very clear NO!

Well ive just had my ivf cancelled by NHS clinic and in 6 weeks into medication very upset but it is what it is i know its prob sensible in current climate anyway sniff sniff

Been meaning to post this as I fee the same. I was going to stop for February anyway as don't really want a birth on Xmas day but maybe longer if this carries on

I feel a bit better that everyone else feels the same.... but now I'm worrying that I might have gotten pregnant this month 😳

@success1986 - that's really tough (if sensible)

If I were younger, I would wait without question but given my age, I’m concerned it might be my last chance - as who knows when this will be over?

But I think I feel the same - it would be crazy to try for a baby with all this going on

I’m in the same boat but have been ttc for AGES and got nowhere so suspect cooling it won’t make any difference at all.
Besides I’d be beyond thrilled to get pregnant pandemic or no pandemic! Good luck with whatever you choose. X

Thank you, Onekidnoclue! I’m so anxious about making the wrong choice - waiting in case it’s too late. Or going for it and everything will kick off worse - and my other fear is that if I get pregnant and get it, it might not be safe for the baby. Ahh!

@lisasimpsonsbff thanks so drained with it all i thought as ive been on the drugs weeks my apointment would have went ahead clearly not :(. This is really knocking on everyone's door its crazy

If I were in your shoes I wouldn't stop - this situation won't be around forever. Even though the virus will be something we live with for a while to come, the closures and lockdown will lessen later this year. I'm five months pregnant (with asthma and an autoimmune disease) and am not worried - I'm lucky enough to be able to work from home which I'll do from now on, and will just take this as it comes.

Well I won't be stopping TTC. We've been trying for number 2 now for 18mths and at 42 and 44 don't have the luxury to be able to put it on hold for 6mths. It's only common sense if you will actually have a chance at the end of all this.

I am 33 and up to today was going to go ahead with TTC (currently in the TWW of my first cycle of trying). While I do have time to wait, We have already put it off once for two years because of something else. Part of me thinks, it’s never the right time and in 9 months it will probably be mostly over. The other part is worried about having to do social distancing for 9 months and also about possible reduced access to medical care because of the virus.

I can’t decide.

Thanks all - I ovulate in a couple of days. Not long to make a decision! (I mean, chances are I wouldn’t get pregnant anyway.)

We have continued this month. Myself and my husband really debated about it last week but decided to go ahead on the basis that this virus could still be around for a very long time yet, if it's ever fully eradicated. However, given the updates yesterday and pregnancy now being considered 'high risk' as a precautionary measure I don't know whether I would have made the same decision now. It's too late for us this month but if we don't get a BFP I might wait a see how this all continues to pan out over the next few weeks.

I don't feel there is any scarily worrying extra risks known at the minute but it is the unknown and the extra anxiety it's probably going to cause in any pregnancy now that id probably rather avoid.

Good luck, fizzl! Yes the extra anxiety is a big thing!