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We have decided....

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whodunit3 · 15/03/2020 22:48

We have just had a family meeting and made the decision, the children will be kept off from tomorrow

Youngest has a chesty cough so wouldn’t be going in anyway but the other two will also be off for the foreseeable future (two primary and one secondary)

We live in an area where parents and grandparents are older, I have 0 confidence that BOJO, government informants or any scientist in the world really knows how this new virus works and I’m scared!

I read today that the reason behind lots of parents stopping doing what they though was right for their children was fear of judgment, doing the wrong thing, or more importantly doing (for you) the right thing.

I just wanted to share, that we are standing up and doing what feel right for us, do what’s right for you.

OP posts:
EL8888 · 16/03/2020 08:06

@ohnononononono channelling 80’s Neighbours Wink

ShatnersWig · 16/03/2020 08:08

The reason I think people are taking the piss may have something to do with this phrase:

I just wanted to share, that we are standing up and doing what feel right for us, do what’s right for you

because if we all did that then we're fucked. It's that attitude of making sure I'm OK that's caused the bloody loo roll and pasta shortages among other things. It's precisely why the Government - rightly or wrongly - haven't introduced draconian measures straight off but are trying to delay them as long as is sensibly possible because it needs huge numbers of people to go along with it - because there will be people like the OP who would do what the fuck they want regardless.

Look, I get people are scared, rightly. Some people are scared about their elderly or vulnerable friends or relatives, some people are scared about how they are going to pay their bills in two months.

What doesn't help is people going on social media and sharing "A nurse told me this" without a clue whether it's accurate, sharing photos of people queuing outside supermarkets because it just encourages others to join the queue, or going on MN saying "we're doing this and you should do what the fuck you want to".

Don't get me wrong - people WILL need to make certain choices about what is right for them and their family. If the OP feels this is right for her and is able to do it (an awful lot of people aren't able to do what the OP is doing, even though they might want to, so the OP isn't going to make them feel better) then fair enough. But going all high and mighty about it like this on a public forum when there is a lot of scared people out there is NOT the right move.

Biancadelrioisback · 16/03/2020 08:08

There are no confirmed cases in my town or neighbouring towns so our schools are not worrying about closing....yet.
DH and I both have to work or we can't pay our mortgage and we don't have any savings thanks to circumstances.
DH works in travel and is terrified about this bankrupting his company. He can't not work and at the moment, can't work from home.
I probably could, but this could also take down the company I work for so really I need to be there to help keep it going.
DS is 3 and will continue to go to nursery but have no contact with anyone in the vulnerable category until we don't have the choice anymore.

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 16/03/2020 08:08

When pretty much every European country is closing schools and criticising Britain for not doing the same, I actually don't think the OP is being very dramatic.

Many would argue that Britain is the country making dramatic experimental choices. I'm delighted to live in Ireland where these difficult choices have been made for us.

beebyjeeby · 16/03/2020 08:09

@whodunit3 you thread title was "We have decided...."

how am I any different other than I have the option to do what is right for my family and have made a decision (which I’m able to do) rather than just sitting around doing fuck all!

It's not either or & there is nothing wrong with having an opinion unless it's one that disagrees with you I guess. At least own your attention seeking!

Wehttam · 16/03/2020 08:09

Well done who you’ve made a good decision, many are doing the same.

Artesia · 16/03/2020 08:10

I’m really not being snarky, I’m genuinely interested - OP, having made this decision, what’s your criteria for when it will be safe for them to go back? The genie is out of the bottle now- unless there’s a simultaneous, prolonged global lockdown this virus isn’t going away, and we won’t have a vaccine before next year. So what’s the long term plan?

Alone07 · 16/03/2020 08:11

Everyone but one has symptoms, not saying it is covid19 but we are all self isolating.
The only child who doesn't have any symptoms goes to a vulnerable school (sen) so I will phone them up this morning and explain the situation to see what they want us to do.

beebyjeeby · 16/03/2020 08:11

@shatnerswig and my faith in humanity is restored so thank you. It will go completely over the OPs head though.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 16/03/2020 08:11

I presume OP you're also one of the panic buyers given the hysteria on your opening post

VividImagination · 16/03/2020 08:11

@whodunit3 I appreciate your post. I would have kept ds3 home from school now but dh is very much “what will people think” and “Don’t be that mother”. I’m glad to hear what others are doing.

IrisAtwood · 16/03/2020 08:13

People are rude on some of these threads because they have the opportunity to feel a bit more in control.

Taking the piss out of someone else gives a sense of superiority and power which, in this crisis, is becoming quite rare for ordinary people.

beebyjeeby · 16/03/2020 08:14
  • @beebyjeeby oh do fuck off.*

But OP, be kind!!! 🙄

whodunit3 · 16/03/2020 08:16

@Artesia

I don’t have all the answers, things are changing every day and fast, nobody really knows what’s going to happen.

I can only go by how I feel just now and I’m uncomfortable sending my children to school when I have the option to keep them at home..

OP posts:
hollieberrie · 16/03/2020 08:17

Grin at the sheer self importance of this post.

Makinganewthinghappen · 16/03/2020 08:18

We home educate our children anyway so school isn’t an issue - we have decided to cancel going to groups and clubs for the foreseeable future. DH is in an at risk group and tbh it seems a little silly to put him or anyone else at risk just so my kids are not bored . His office is shut down and everyone working from home and I am a sahm.

Anyone has the right to take their kids out of school - it is ridiculous that people are concerned about if they are “allowed” to decide what their kids do day to day.

If people who CAN stay home took their kids out of school surely that would reduce the risk for people who can’t? Schools need to stay open to care for children if nhs staff / police etc but fewer kids means fewer chances of infection.

SonjaMorgan · 16/03/2020 08:18

From the models provided by other countries we shall be at capacity in our hospitals in weeks. People can mock me for not wanting my children to catch it now and wanting to slow the spread (if they catch it they will infect numerous others). But I would rather try to follow WHOs advice and also keep my children safe. Yes they may catch this at a later date and they should be fine but if they are not I would rather go into this at a stage where they will receive the best care from the NHS.

confusedandtired99 · 16/03/2020 08:20

Us too OP

EricaNernie · 16/03/2020 08:21

80% of cases are mild

Dragongirl10 · 16/03/2020 08:22

To all those who are being sarcastic, unkind and think their put downs of the op are clever... this is from a post titled.... 'Please do not send your children to school if you can possibly help it.'

I'm writing this to you from the Pacific Northwest of the United States, where our schools have closed.

I wrote part of this in another thread, but I want very badly for you to see this.

In the United States, about 30 per 100,000 children in the age range 10-19 die every year. I imagine it's a bit less in the UK. That's from ALL causes, from suicide to car accidents to pediatric cancers.

If .2%, or 2 in 1000, children 10-19 die from this, that's 200 out of every 100,000.

This means even if only 20% of the population gets this virus, it will kill more 10-19 year olds this year than ALL OTHER CAUSES OF DEATH COMBINED.

More than all the rest combined. And that's with only 20% infected. If it's 60%...

Many more old people will die from this than young people. But there is no age category for which this is not, at least according to current evidence, more deadly than all-causes death for a given year in a developed nation.

You can say "hardly any children will die," but would you say "oh, let your child go to the party with drinking, hardly any teenagers die on average in a year, just a few in 100,000!" or "well, so few kids get cancer, it's not worth getting my kid checked out with these weird symptoms," or "almost no one gets kidnapped, really, may as well not even talk about stranger danger with my kids."

This is more dangerous than every murderer and every misplaced weapon, this year. More dangerous than every drunk driver. More dangerous than every overdose and every eating disorder.

I know not everyone has options. That is manifestly clear in the US, and it's destroying people to stay home in some cases.

But this is the level of risk you're exposing your child to by sending them, a risk that some people are taking willingly not because they must, but because they're worried their child will be lonely, bored, or marked as truant.

We take precautions for our children every day. We inconvenience ourselves for their safety every day, for situations that will kill far fewer children every year than this disease. If you wouldn't walk away from a toddler in the bath, and you wouldn't let your teenager get in a drunk driver's car, it's worth going out of your way to help your child avoid this.

It's hard to understand the cold, hard math of population-level, actuarial death probability and risk assessment. In this case, if your sense of danger is telling you to keep your kid away, it's right. Listen to it.

cdtaylornats · 16/03/2020 08:23

Perhaps you should provide your in depth scientific and medical knowledge to the government. Eventually those refusing to contribute to herd immunity will be seen to be as insane as the anti-vaxxers.

Dragongirl10 · 16/03/2020 08:25

Some may disagree with the above poster, fine but if you have nothing constructive to add to a post.....with respect go away and don't comment. This is really not the time for bitching and bullying .

PrednoLeucotropin · 16/03/2020 08:25

To the posters that are saying we are all going to get it anyway so why worry. It's about flattening the curve. If you get it now or within the next month you are likely to be one of far too many for the NHS to be able to deal with you. If you self isolate for now if you can and get it at some point in the future, it's more likely you will get treatment if you need it.

ShatnersWig · 16/03/2020 08:29

Dragongilr10 You've just proved my point for me, thank you. You have just shared a post from someone that you have no idea who they are. And if you'd read the thread it's from, you'd have discovered that the statistics quoted by that poster in that and her subsequent postings aren't even correct.

slashlover · 16/03/2020 08:30

I think people some people has misplaced my commitment and level of planning to self isolate my children for that of dramatics or some kind of the over the top boast.

I think it starts with the dramatics of the title. We have decided.... compared to We have decided to keep the kids off or Not sending the kids to school,

Maybe it's just me who is annoyed by deliberately vague titles (probably designed to get clicks).

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