Would you have DM for the weekend?

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She's 74.
She will travel over 200 miles by train, including catching the Tube through London.
She's realistically in good health but weighs a little over 7 stone and, as previously mentioned is 74.

I know she's lonely and misses DS us but I don't think the risk is worth it. She will protest that it's all been blown out of proportion and she'll be "fine".

DH, DS and I are of the opinion she should stay at home - I fear tomorrow's conversation will be a tricky one

Definitely not could you go visit her? Maybe drive up? Still the risk you could already have it and not know however

No I wouldn't. I miss my mum too and she's local. I'm too terrified to visit.

No, no, no!

Are you worried about yourselves or her? If it's her I'd let her make her own decision, she's old enough to decide for herself if she wants to take the risk.

Do you want her to be gravely ill ? If so, let her, the odds are high.

There's me, DH and 15yo DS (who should be doing his GCSE's in a few weeks) here.

Truthfully we can't drive up there, it's a five hour journey and I have limited time off already (emergency services)

My fear is she will either get ill and be alone at home (we are her only family) or get ill here and be unable to travel back (we don't have a spare room so DH and I sleep on a sofa bed when she visits) Then we could all get sick. The logistics of that scenario make me very edgy

I'm gearing up for a fight tomorrow

If you don't have her for the weekend, when will you see her? Who will look after her if she gets sick at home? If she gets sick at yours she'll have people to look after her. They are saying that 80% of the country will get CV so it's very likely you, your DH and DS will get it anyway, if not from DM from elsewhere.

Not sure pilot, and that's the thing that will make it hard for her. If she gets sick then I've no idea what will happen - as I said we're her only family and she moved over 200 miles away when she remarried.
We're not socially distancing ourselves to the letter (still attending work and school) but are taking sensible precautions. It seems it's only a matter of time before she is told to go into isolation which she will ignore and then we won't see her at all.

If she is well I would say arm self with antibacterial wipes for surfaces; wear woolly gloves, avoid tube by walking/ taxi or bus and come because it could be ages before you see her and she sees you again with your job meaning a weekend away will be potentially difficult for the foreseeable.it is not up to you to tell your mother how to behave . I don't think I would be actively encouraging but I wouldn't prevent her either

Well she's not coming- not sure she's entirely thrilled with the idea but the news she's expected not to go to the pub has swayed her opinion somewhat

Bless her but l think it’s for the best. The tube but was especially concerning for me