To stay or to go?

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ok. we're based in London. Centre of covid 19 but also near best hospital to deal with it.
Dad is 88, in London, he's isolating but was in tears on 'phone saying he can't be alone for 4 months. His flat is tiny, no room for us.
I am mildly asthmatic as are my 3 children. (5,7 &10)
We have a rural house in another part of the country - I can isolate with children whose school has agreed that we can take them out if we want to. We live with DH who can't isolate due to work but is fit and healthy.
WIBU to take kids and dad and go to rural house and isolate there? It's the only way we can truly isolate as DH won't be coming in with possible germs. Dad would also have our company in at least the first 2 months of his isolation.
DH thinks I'm over-reacting but is fine with it if it will give me peace of mind. But if he gets unwell he's all alone.
Should I stay or should I go?
YABU - you should stay
YANBU- you should go

Tough one. I'm not sure I could go without DH.

No way of him WFH?

I think go. Sounds a good option and you won't see DH for a bit of time but once this blows over everyone can go back and your dad won't feel so lonely and won't have been at risk.

Why don't you have your dad to stay with you at home, might be best of both worlds?

Not sure elderly father staying with super spreader children who are going to school etc is a good idea, bairnsmum!

You and DF are asthmatic. If it were me, I would go, providing you can arrange enough supplies.

Go, protect your vulnerable dad and children, DH will probably be fine even if he gets it. If l were DH l would be pushing you to go somewhere safe.

Sounds a bit like during the war when children were evacuated to the countryside to be safe. I would definitely take my dad and my children and go and live in rural isolation.

My mum and her husband are in their 70's. If there was any way on earth I could take them and self-isolate us all, I would do it in a heartbeat

Isn't this what happened in Italy? All the rich northerners fled to their summer houses in the south spreading the virus with them.
Maybe get your dad to join you where you are now. I totally understand that he feels he can't manage to be alone for weeks on end. Nobody could.

Do it,100% you have to go with who needs you most and it sounds like your dad does, potentially we will all be working from home soon, my mom lives overseas in a country currently locked Down if I could have got them home first I definitely would have regardless of anything or anyone else x

Kids already out of school - I took them out last week. Dad can’t come to us because my DH is still out working in. Entrap Lindon and could easily contaminate dad. We’re going tomorrow - anyway there’s no food here - wish I’d joined the grabbers now, we’ve got hardly anything but friend said shops in rural areas are getting empty now so she’s doing a big shop for us.
DH thinks we must go. We won’t be spreading any germs we may have as we will be isolating.
We’re off!

Why can't your Dad go with you?

Your DH stays in London?

No. Stay in London. I live in one of those rural areas with rich southerners owning second homes.

Our hospitals don't have the resources to treat is on a normal day to day basis. They certainly won't cope if every second home owner flocks here.

I think if DH is genuinely okay with it I would go, mainly just cause I couldn’t stand the thought of DF being so isolated and unhappy about it.

Do you think the kids will be okay with potentially not seeing their father for a long time? This could last for many months.

Yes, we came - dad is with us, DH working in London. We are now on day 5 of isolation and have enough supplies for a month.

I guess an alternative could have been for your dad to swap places with your husband, keeping you all in the same relative geographic location.