Parents not self isolating and wanting to visit

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My parents fall into the high risk category on more than one account. They are not taking any precautions and if anything they are socialising more than usual because they feel it is the right thing to do given the virus concerns. They now want to visit us. Would I be unreasonable to say they should wait 14 days after their last social visit before they come to see us? They have accepted this but I feel guilty!

Ummm YABU and I say that as someone who is very concerned about the virus. They’re not showing any symptoms are they?

Its bloody selfish of them and Ive seen this attitude lots of times in elderly people.

I'd tell them no.

Are you self-isolating too? If not, why would your parents be any different from your colleagues or your kids or people you come across every day? If anything, you should be worried for them getting the virus more than passing it on to you? Don't seem to me you care about your parents much.

I don't really understand what your fears are here. You have told your parents they can't visit you until they have have no socialisation with anyone else for two weeks? Have I misunderstood? If all parties are well and showing no symptoms then there is no reason for them not to visit surely?

I have an elderly family member exactly like this who is actually displaying a few symptoms and wanted to visit this weekend.

It was an absolute no from us along with a firm please stay at home!!

The selfishness makes me so cross!

You realise THEY are more at risk from CV than you or your kids (even if you have complicating health conditions) right?

Hi

Hang on, they want to visit an you’ve said no? Are you self isolating then?

We are only going to the supermarket, other than that we are staying indoors or in our garden. My parents have increased their social activities as they feel it is the right thing to do eg going to meetings sitting in a hall with 50 other people in close proximity. I am worried that they may bring something to us, but also worry they may catch something from us as they are in high risk groups.

Now is totally the wrong time to reinforce the age divide.

Some old people are selfish and don't heed advice. So are some young people.

Now is the time to cut out these generalisations/stereotypes.

Not all young people are "snowflakes", not all Boomers are daily mail reading leave voters.

I'm old and self isolating. This is as much for me ( don't want to get CV) and just as much to want not to stretch NHS resources by becoming ill myself