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Should I self-isolate from DP?

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JellyLlama · 15/03/2020 18:05

DP is currently self-isolating for 14 days after a very short trip to an infected country. He is not aware of coming into contact with anyone who has coronavirus, and he has no symptoms. He’s renovating a property and is self-isolating there alone, very comfortably.

I had cancer last year and my health is fairly good but my immune system isn’t great. I work from home and don’t need to have close contact with hardly anyone.

DP is out a lot, eats out every day, plays indoor sport every evening and then props up the bar. If I’m going to catch it from anyone, it’ll probably be from him because he mixes with so many people and is quite blasé about coronavirus.

I speak to him every day on the phone. He can’t wait to pick up his life again, but I know if he’s infected, I’ll get it because I catch everything he gets. He’s lax about things like covering his mouth when he coughs, and handwashing (he's probably slightly better now).

I want to avoid getting it for as long as possible, so WIBU to ask him to continue living where he is? It will mean hardly seeing him, maybe just going for walks together. Or should I just suck it up and go back to us living together?

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Lynda07 · 15/03/2020 18:10

Let him stay put for the time being, you are vulnerable right now so there's no point in taking unnecessary risks.

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Finfintytint · 15/03/2020 18:12

I’d stay apart for a bit. I’m vulnerable. DH of 30 years is living in our rented accommodation while I stay put in our own home a few hundred miles away while we relocate. We’ve been meeting up at either property every week so far but I’ve said no this time and want to spend a few weeks apart until we know what might be happening.

He’s getting the hump though. He’s working and gymning and meeting up with everyone one and their mother. I don’t have to come into contact with anyone if I don’t have to for the next few weeks.
I’m staying put.

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Splitsunrise · 15/03/2020 18:16

I'd stay apart. and don't meet for walks unless you're going to stay over 2 metres apart at all time!

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JellyLlama · 15/03/2020 18:26

Thank you all! Wasn't sure if I was being unduly selfish in wanting to stay on my own.

Finfintytint, your DH sounds exactly like my DP, and he will probably get the hump too.

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Splitsunrise · 15/03/2020 18:54

Does he understand why it’s important for you not to get it? Is he concerned for you/does he support you?

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JellyLlama · 15/03/2020 19:13

Splitsunrise, he understands it in a theoretical way, but he's playing down the seriousness and will probably think I'm overreacting. I doubt he'll want us to stay apart for longer than the 14 days he's currently working through.

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