Wedding next week - would you attend?

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My brother is getting married on Friday 20th a small wedding with 50 guests coming from England, Wales, Scotland, America (1) and Australia. My mother is 70 and father 69. I'm really worried about them being exposed. My SIL to be and brother are determined the wedding will go ahead and don't seem to give a hoot about the implications to older family members. They are having a band and dancing but because it is a small wedding don't think it is anything to be concerned about so long as people wash their hands. If you were a guest would you attend? I will as my son is an usher and daughter a bridesmaid and I need to look after my parents. I just think the wedding couple's attitude is selfish and they only care about getting the wedding they want and the photos etc but things are different now. Although I do feel very sorry for them they are burying their head in the sand. My parents refuse to rock the boat.

I wouldn’t be worried about myself attending but would be concerned about my parents, especially given the plans in the news today that they will be asking them to self isolate soon for their own protection. Hearing that might hit home more with the couple than they had considered yesterday?

How do your parents feel?

PS my parents live the other end of the country so me still going wouldn’t affect seeing them in daily life so that’s why I would be ok

My parents are in denial and don't want to upset the bride. They will go. They are having a Celidh which is high contact dancing!! I queried the sense in this and the bride bit my head off saying it's all booked and it's happening.

I'm in Azerbaijan and the government banned all weddings, with just 2 days notice. Typical attendance at a wedding here is at least 200 people.

I think your American relative won't be travelling now.

I'd guess that if people still go they will all be feeling a bit nervous. Seems very short-sighted to proceed.

That’s really difficult for your parents. It sounds like B and SIL are very self centred.

If they were umming and ahhing then fine because we are still in limbo in the U.K. but to be so arrogant and self entitled is awful.

I’ve got a feeling this wedding will be cancelled by the government...

My friend just cancelled her wedding that's booked for April.

It's too risky to have a wedding right now. It's be surprised if the venue didn't cancel to be honest.

No!

It's fucking horrible for the couple, and I hope from the bottom of my heart that they'll have a lovely, wonderful wedding do later with as many guests as they would like.

But, no! Not only should you not attend, neither should anyone else!

We need to stop this bloody thing spreading by any means necessary - and that means horrible personal sacrifices! Trust me, I know what I'm talking about here and I'm making them. I'm separated from my entire family and will be for the foreseeable future. It's killing me - but it can't be helped!

The sooner we get the fucker in check, the sooner we can all go back to life as it used to be - hopefully without any tragic losses amongst our nearest and dearest.

And, yes, this means strict social distancing. Even if it sucks balls. Which it does!

Don't go! I wouldn't! I appreciate that some people still need to go to work (e.g. in supermarkets, pharmacies, hospitals). The rest of us need to STAY HOME. That means no restaurants, no dinner with friends. No popping to B&Q and certainly NO WEDDINGS.

This is incredibly selfish behaviour. I am seeing quite a lot of it in my friends and family and they will probably never see the light.

But do your bit and don't go. This is wildly irresponsible behaviour.

The wedding should be cancelled unless they can find a celebrant and a couple of witnesses who are prepared to attend. Even then it may not be possible depending on lockdown conditions.

Sorry but the bride needs upsetting if she is willing to out so many at risk, not just those present but the many more affected by the rise in infections and pressure on NHS that occurs every time people ignore the advice.

I am sure as time goes by it will become clear this wedding cannot happen. It is very selfish of them to even suggest it. I can't believe it.

Right now they should be focused on helping their parents begin isolation.

• wildly irresponsible to hold the wedding, I mean

My goodness, this wedding should not be going ahead. Happiest day of the couple's lives... the day they potentially put dozens of their nearest and dearest in harms way. The mind boggles.

Op, if I were you I'd make a stand and day you're not going. If you don't then perhaps it will for others the confidence to say they won't too and hopefully the B&G might see sense.