I'm social distancing, dp isn't. Wwyd?

[Helenj1977]

I'm taking my children out of school and pretty much self isolating from now. I have historyic underlying health issues and am entitled to a flu jab (think that means I'm still vulnerable)

Dp works in a busy office. They're starting to reduce office numbers from next week. I've suggested we split the house and he stays on his own.

Am I massively over reacting? I'm terrified of getting this as I suffer chest pains, kidney pain and depression.

The survival of the strongest technique is very scary. If Boris does that he's basically putting it lives risk. No one really knows how this will effect them.

No you're not. You are doing the right thing.

From your username I'd guess you are 40ish.

You are probably being a little extreme. Your children may suffer mentally from being at home, how long will you keep them off for?

Your depression may become worse staying in for the forseeable future.

I think that’s sensible.

Do you have diagnosed current conditions that have been identified as making you vulnerable?

Just a gentle reminder that not everyone who qualifies for the flu jab is vulnerable to CVOD-19 babies, children, pregnant etc. Simply qualifying for a jab may not mean you are at increased risk.

That being said. Ensure you have adequate medications to last. If you can sleep separately from your DH then do. If he can have his own bathroom then do. If not then he had better be capable of properly cleaning it after use.

There's lots of fantastic online resources for home education for your DCs. Try and structure your days and hopefully your DH will eventually work from home.

What's a 'historic underlying health issue'? That's says to me you no longer have an underlying health issue.

My Sister qualifies for a flu jab because she is over weight and because she a carer to a disabled person. Neither of those reasons put her high risk now.

Yes, I think you are massively over reacting.

What's a historic underlying health issue?

It is a condition that someone already has, so just means it isn't new.

You can only do your best in this situation. Split the house until your partner is fully WFH as everyone will be. After 14 days reintegrate the house. Try not to be in the same room at the same time and clean all surfaces especially metal surfaces. Keep a diary, get all your anxieties out on the page. Hope you're OK.

Are you going to self isolate you and your children for what could be 4+ months?

It is a condition that someone already has, so just means it isn't new.

Just an 'underlying health condition' then?

I'm sorry but 'not new' is not what 'historic means'

OP, you really need to clarify this?

It's sensible but potentially you have to
Do that for 4 months. No kissing / cuddling / no sharing cups/ forks - separate bathrooms and bedrooms. That will be extremely hard.

However, I know it's not failsafe but I am charting the family temperatures and the moment one changes he is going into isolation within the family to see how the other persons temp spike pans out.

We have a immune issue here too.
He is avoiding kissing and cuddling the children for a bit too :-(

We are self isolating for 2 weeks properly to first establish whether we are CV19
Free and will take it from there.

Also we are going to see my parents on sunnier days with coats on in the garden, allowing the children to play as parents are self isolating too.

What a dreadful situation this is

Good luck

I am in the same situation and DH is a front line NHS worker. He has the option of staying elsewhere and once schools close I would like him to do that. Am I the worst ever?

I don’t think it’s realistic to try to avoid getting it tbh. All you can do by self isolating is delay getting it, unless you’re going to stay home till we’re over the peak (10-14 weeks they are saying). I wouldn’t do that length of self isolation with children.

Qualifying for the 'flu jab doesn't necessarily mean you're in a vulnerable group. I have coeliac disease and that qualifies me for the jab because a minority of coeliacs may be vulnerable, but it's cheaper to offer the jab to all coeliacs instead of testing (for spleen function) and only giving the jab to those that need it.

Your DP's office is starting to take measures next week. That sounds like they have a plan and are going about it calmly and rationally. It's not unreasonable to be worried. But it's a time for a deep breath and planning what you and your DP are going to do over the coming weeks to follow guidelines and keep safe. This is going to be for the long haul.

I’ll be honest, I think you’re over reacting. How long are you planning on doing this for? A month? 2? 3? It’s just not feasible.

Lots of people are entitled to a flu jab for all sorts of reasons. It doesn’t mean you will be at risk now.