What small but significant disappointments are you facing?

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Things that you know are nothing in the great scheme of things but still bother you more than you know they should.

I'm very concerned about how the illness will play out, how people will cope with a prolonged lockdown and how long it will take the economy to recover but I was knocked sideways by the realisation that the festival that DS2 has worked hard and saved hard for probably won't happen.

He's been getting more and more excited as all the "right" bands have been added to the lineup. I'll be gutted for him if it doesn't happen.

Funnily enough I feel like I accepted the holidays we have cancelled and the events but what I’m really upset about is not being able to go out to dinner next week with my parents. I think it’s because the other things are out of the ordinary but not being able to do a very mundane, everyday kind of thing brings home how much this crisis is changing in our lives. And I suppose constantly whirring in my mind is the fear that I will lose one or both of them to this illness and then it will be the little things - the dinners, meeting for coffee and so on that will hurt the most to miss if they never happen again.

Parents visiting from overseas next week, Dubai end of month, Portugal in April.

But mainly it's DS's GCSEs that are making me panic

My holiday next month may be cancelled.

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People are dying. It's nothing compared to that.

I know these are trivial compared to many but a tour around north coast of Scotland in May, trip to Rhodes for a wedding later in May, Cornwall in July, Cyprus in September and Tenerife in November. But if some/all of these don't materialise I know it's not the end of the world compared to what many are suffering.

This was the one year we haven't had a holiday planned. Last year was a bucket list holiday that I had dreamt off since I was 7. I'm very grateful that happened last year. Ds is supposed to start college in September after years of Home Ed, I hope that will happen. Dd has an activities week in June, which would have involved trips to various places which she was really excited about, not sure if that will happen now.

Football being suspended, may have to miss my holiday in May/June, postponing lunches with friends.

I'm old with underlying health conditions, so I'm trying to be ultra cautious

My wedding is in a few weeks, supposedly, but God knows where we will be by then. Honeymoon in Italy already cancelled. Gutted doesn't cover it. The entire thing is causing huge logistical problems, work issues and resultant strain at home as our attitudes to this crisis are very different.
Not sure at this point whether I bloody want to get married. In tears most days.

Had an interrailing trip planned this year. Luckily I hadn't booked anything but it's something I've wanted to do for a long time and I'd saved up enough to do it this year. I hope to do it next year but one of the reasons I wanted to do it now was to avoid visa applications for Europe and increased insurance costs (ehic will not be valid).

Nothing really (except when parkrun is cancelled, today was probably the last one).

I am actually raging more about a couple of things which I think should be cancelled but haven't been and which I'd actually quite like to get me/ds out of.

I was going to visit my elderly parents 150 miles away. I haven't seen them since Christmas and I have this awful dread about whether or not I will see them again. Although they are both very active and have a good life they both have the dreaded 'underlying health conditions', and they must be scared. My mother says she really wishes she could see her all family for a big hug.
A couple of big family birthday parties have been called off. We are hoping to have a get together later this year but I fear that may be too optimistic.

DS taking an early IGCSE in April (y9). He has worked so hard.

Children's birthdays in April.

Some low life has spent 3k on my credit card at the likes of Royal.Mint and other urgent essentials
I have bought various extras this month like food, nebuliser for asthmatic soon and needed that card til.I get paid. Now worried as it takes up to 21 days to refund (if that happens now given curent situation)

My wee boy’s residential trip. Not heard yet officially but preparing him for the worst. He will be devastated.

My 7 year old has just finished chemo. We were meant to go to centerparcs a month ago just before her last cycle but had to cancel as I was in hospital with pneumonia. Rebooked for next week . And we were going to have a party for her to celebrate.
I know far bigger problems.... but still gutted

If DS's sport activities are cancelled because he is high energy and will drive me absolutely batshit crazy

I’m gutted for you all too Chinateapot after reading that. I’m cabin crew and have just lost all my trips to America and consequently a lot of money, but you’ve put it in perspective for me.

Ah China what a shame. I bet she has a lovely party

Starting with my son's chance to go flying with the RAF on Monday, continuing with a weekend away to see family next weekend, culminating in our summer holiday to America (first big trip for 14 years)
In fact everything remotely enjoyable for months to come. Necessary but miserable.

Disneyland Paris in April will be cancelled. The DC didn't know we were going but it's still a shame. I'd bought clothes and Disney stuff got the trip.

DDs birthday is also April. Did plans. Few days at a theme park. That probably won't happen.

School holidays could be a right let down.

Such a shame but we are all in the same boat I suppose.

First world problem, but probably not going to get to Dublin for my child free weekend next week. 😒

china what a disappointment for your Dd after a traumatic time. I hope it's not too long before she gets a chance to do all those things and celebrate the end of treatment.

Ds was meant to be doing a camp with the National Autistic Society at Easter that's been cancelled. In the grand scheme of things pretty insignificant but disappointing.

Ds has a recent diagnosis of autism and has had a really tough time. He has so few opportunities to do anything and is completely isolated (that's his normal life, nothing to do with coronavirus) so this opportunity seemed like a real positive.

to all those with new babies who will have to isolate. I had v v bad pnd and god knows how bad I would have been had I had to be inside constantly. It’s not that I saw people but driving about and going to the shops was very important for my incredibly fragile mental health at the time. If that’s you, please reach out to people via MN or other sources. I did find MN a real link with the reality I was struggling to keep a grip on.

Sorry to derail a lighter hearted thread

We've cancelled a trip to Italy over Easter. Have a trip planned to Portugal in May, along with tickets for Pet shop boys and Harry Styles. Who knows if any of those things will still happen. I'd be happier to kill Covid stone dead by doing nothing at all though to be fair.

Me and my husband are due to go to Cardiff next Saturday to see Rhod Gilbert and have a night in a hotel without the kids. I'm not sure if I was looking forward to Rhod Gilbert or uninterrupted sleep more. I have a feeling it wont be happening.

We managed to get tickets to see The Killers in July - I'm starting to wonder if it will be cancelled/postponed.

In the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal, just a bit disappointing.

So I'm just counting my blessings as it were as I know many people have much more to worry about (especially those who have loved ones in high risk groups/people who can't afford to buy in additional supplies and are now caught out by panic buying).

Thankfully my Brexit stash was still intact so we've plenty of essentials in without adding to the clearing of supermarket shelves.

This thread has really moved me, @ElizabethMountbatten - I'm hoping with all my might that surgery happens.