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What small but significant disappointments are you facing?

459 replies

DoubleAction · 14/03/2020 16:21

Things that you know are nothing in the great scheme of things but still bother you more than you know they should.

I'm very concerned about how the illness will play out, how people will cope with a prolonged lockdown and how long it will take the economy to recover but I was knocked sideways by the realisation that the festival that DS2 has worked hard and saved hard for probably won't happen.

He's been getting more and more excited as all the "right" bands have been added to the lineup. I'll be gutted for him if it doesn't happen.

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Sosososotired · 14/03/2020 20:37

Dance competitions and shows for DD. She’s worked so hard, it will be upsetting when they’re cancelled. Really insignificant in the scheme of things however.

giggly · 14/03/2020 20:42

Not so much a disappointment but more of a relief. I have huge debts that I have planned to pay off this year by pumping all available cash so no holidays at all this year for me and dc which I was feeling really guilty about. But they are like “so no ones going on holiday then” suddenly the guilts a bit easier.

NemophilistRebel · 14/03/2020 20:43

My 2nd and final baby due in 10 weeks

I had a disaster of a pregnancy 1st time and was so looking forward to spending some quality time with DH somewhere as a special treat before baby comes and doing lots of things together as family of 3 before becoming family of 4 and the risk of catching this is causing so much anxiety and panic attacks

I’ve cried most days about being pregnant right now.

We also looked at a house just a week before news started to break of Europe wide lock downs and now don’t have the confidence financially to increase mortgage to get the 3 bed we really need. (But we’ll manage fine with ours for now)

Rowdythree · 14/03/2020 20:50

My 40th birthday celebrations, a holiday to Asia and potentially Glastonbury... Hopefully it will all go ahead next year though, so I'm trying not to be disappointed.

Bookoffacts · 14/03/2020 20:51

Was going to a wedding in Italy in late August. Not now. Wedding seems to be going ahead though.

scrawnybutscrumptious · 14/03/2020 20:57

I finally found a job that's perfect for me after working from home/being a sahm for 11 years. It's been such a struggle find a job and I was excited to start in a few weeks. It's in a childcare setting and now I'm worried we'll be self isolating or the place goes out of business. My biggest concern is for my parents and asthmatic child, but this is also making me sad and anxious.

FishingPaws · 14/03/2020 20:59

The band I was going to see next week have cancelled; absolutely the right thing to do, but I had tickets for a meet and greet with the group and some other perks as well so I'm gutted.

Bubbletrouble43 · 14/03/2020 21:00

Due to take 3 year old twins to butlins next Monday. First break away together as a family since they were born. Trying not to feel like a brat about it.

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna · 14/03/2020 21:03

@Fannia I have just cancelled my mum. She travels the uk for her work. She has a lot if contact with a lot of people. My DP is asthmatic, my DDs dad is very poorly. So I have had to cancel as much as I can so my DD can still see her dad. I wasn't going to cancel, but yesterday DD said to me, I have always been prepared to lose daddy to kidney failure but I just can't accept I might lose him to a cough and will not get the chance to say goodbye. That was it for me, I locked my family down as much as possible.

Notquiteagandt · 14/03/2020 21:07

Cancelled holiday
Cancelled operation
Baby groups which as a solo parent may give me my only adult interaction of the day cancelled
And looking likely if the rules about large gatherings come into place a friends wedding maybe cancelled to. Which ive booked hotel for etc too.

But if it keeps some vunerable people that but safer than so be it.

weebarra · 14/03/2020 21:08

The Scottish football season
Edinburgh Science festival
DS1's school trip to France
Our summer holiday to Mallorca - managed the day after my radiotherapy finished and after the death of my sister but not now.

IRememberSoIDo · 14/03/2020 21:11

My dd's confirmation has been postponed and a long planned family holiday with extended family has had to be postponed. I actually don't care one bit. We'll just have to do them another time.

Fatfat · 14/03/2020 21:12

I’m getting married at the beginning of June..

NurseJaques · 14/03/2020 21:17

Marathon if trained for

Triathlon I'd trained for

Every lunch break for next few months Grin (NHS front line)

AlecTrevelyan006 · 14/03/2020 21:19

#letsmake2021special

KitKat1985 · 14/03/2020 21:29

Have got a holiday to the New Forest booked for 3 weeks time. The idea was to take the kids to Peppa pig world (DD2 in particular who is 3 is Peppa Pig obsessed!), Marwell zoo etc and at the moment I suspect everything is going to be shut. No idea whether it's going to be worth going if we'll just be sat in a caravan with nothing to do for a week.

Supposed to be going to Majorca late August as well but crossing my fingers things have calmed down by then.

I also am a front-line NHS nurse on an acute NHS mental health ward. I am very concerned about the coming months. We are working on skeleton staffing and resources as it is, without half the staff off self-isolating, and I work with older adults with dementia who are very high risk for complications if coronavirus makes it onto our ward. I suspect I'm going to be spending much less time with my kids over the coming weeks. Sad

TheMagiciansMewTwo · 14/03/2020 21:35

We had to miss a concert this week. We'd bought the tickets in 2018 so had been looking forward to it.
An amazing one-off course. I don't think they'll be able to coordinate all the guest tutors ' diaries again.
A holiday abroad I'd booked for myself and DM so she could see where her DM grew up. She's in her 80s and we'd always talked about going. I finally booked it last year but have had to cancel.
DS is a musical theatre kid and we have tickets for one of the big West end shows. It would have been his first big show.
But, honestly, I will just be relieved if all my loved ones with underlying conditions make it through this safely.

KimchiLaLa · 14/03/2020 22:26

Was meant to have a bday lunch in London today but we cancelled it as I'm too anxious to go in.

Will probably not be going on holiday in May as planned.

I don't actually want to work from home full time - I like my colleagues and we get a lot out of speaking face to face

Was meant to take our toddler swimming today but that didn't happen and won't for a while

Miriel · 14/03/2020 22:39

It's my birthday this month and I bought tickets to a sporting event as a treat. It's very rare for me to splash out on anything like that.

The event is cancelled, and even though I think it was completely the right decision, I'm still sad that I won't get to see it. And that I spent so much on long-distance train tickets and a hotel for the night. If the event had been cancelled under other circumstances I'd use them anyway and go sightseeing in the city instead, but that doesn't seem sensible now.

amaryl · 14/03/2020 22:52

There's. Couple of things that I'm secretly pleased have been cancelled!
Girls days out that I was just dreading. A holiday that I couldn't possibly lose enough weight for

derxa · 14/03/2020 22:53

I should imagine the Royal Highland Show will be cancelled. Scottish farmers' big week out. We're totally isolated all year. Gutted

AgentCooper · 14/03/2020 22:58

I don't actually want to work from home full time - I like my colleagues and we get a lot out of speaking face to face

@KimchiLaLa me too. I only work 3 days since going part time after having DS and those 3 days do so much for my mental health. I had PND and found mat leave very hard. Getting some adult company, fresh air and a change of scene are so important to me feeling ok. I know it’s better than getting sick or infecting vulnerable people but I am worried about how tough it’s going to be.

bemoreeverything · 14/03/2020 22:59

I had a mid week city break booked for the last week of this month. Just me. No kids. No DH. No stress. It was a posh hotel and theatre trip, which of course I can do anytime, but my god I was looking forward to my 2 days away

ichbineinstasumer · 14/03/2020 23:03

my fiftieth birthday trip to Rome - first child free holiday for 17 years. My study day in Newcastle cancelled for a post grad course I am doing.

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 14/03/2020 23:06

The cinema, was the thing to get me out the house not just for doctors appointments for the first time in years. Now looks like I'm unlikely to again for a while

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