In a bit of a conundrum here.
Have a 9 year-old DD with asthma. I'm taking her out of school for the forseeable to manage the risk -- not especially due to covid-19 but because I can't take the risk of having her hospitalised at present. I'm wfh until further notice.
I have been seeing a guy for over a year -- we don't live together, we see each other a couple of times a week. He's lovely, extremely caring and loving towards me and considerate to my DD. But he doesn't have kids and works in a setting where he can't self-isolate. Someone he works with has self-isolated last week due to potential covid-19 exposure and my OH is going to have to take the risk. For now we've agreed that he won't come over for at least the next week. All straightforward enough for now.
The question is what to do longer term: he is in no position to work from home so will be exposed to the risk on an ongoing basis. He also, frankly, is a bit blase about it, IMHO. He's still going out socialising a lot. Fair enough as the risk to him is low and aside from DD there's no one high risk in his circle. But he seems infuriatingly unwilling to consider how serious an issue this is for me and DD: not only is her life potentially at risk but so is livelihood in the event of me or her getting sick.
I've just had a conversation with him about this and while he accepted the need to stay away in the short-term with total good grace he seemed a bit nonplussed that I was anxious and upset about the longer-term situation. It was a bit as if it hadn't crossed his mind to think how difficult this is going to be for me and he is still cracking jokes and sending silly memes to me about coronavirus.
I'm a) trying to figure out how to make the relationship logistics work in the short term and b) working out if he's grown up enough to be able to be counted upon if stuff got really tricky for me. I realise I can't expect him to curtail his social life indefinitely for me and he will have to be exposed through work and I can't control that, but I kind of want him to wake up and say "yes I know this is shit for you but we'll ride it out and make it work". Or something. And he hasn't really done that.
How do I get across to him that I need him to step up a bit on this without bullying him? Has anyone else been in a similar position?