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Parents with health conditions

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flamingo40 · 14/03/2020 09:11

At present we have no symptoms.
My worry is that my mums is awaiting heart surgery and another family member has considerable lung conditions.
We are being careful keeping an eye on our temperature etc
My worry is social events.
I'm scared I'll come in to contact with people who don't know they've got it and then pass on to my vulnerable relatives.
I think what concerns me is that although we are taking precautions as a family I can't control that others are.
Would you avoid any social gatherings if you were me?
I'll add I'm no social butterfly. I'd quite happily stay home but have an event soon and am just unsure of what to do

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Notanalien · 14/03/2020 09:46

Similar position here. DM unwell with various health conditions, one DD in secondary school. DM is quite independent and lives alone but we see her often and she needs a bit of help here and there. We are a very small family of just the three of us so want to stick together but I'm finding it very difficult to know what is best. I honestly wish they had closed the schools. I work from home, DM rarely goes out and DD is happy and busy at home so the three of us could easily have moved in together, stayed indoors on a self imposed lockdown and weathered this together but the school situation adds some anxiety for us in case DD unwittingly brings it home. For now we are staying in our separate homes and FaceTiming a lot - DM feels very lonely though and I can tell she is becoming very depressed. She is very worried about getting ill and she tells me that in the worse moments she thinks about all those people who have died from this, who weren't able to spend their last moments with their families. Sad I can't bear to let my mind go there for too long or I will spiral downwards too.
It is a horrible situation and a tricky one to navigate on a personal level. DM really feels like she and others in her generation are being used as sacrificial lambs by Boris' stance. And I agree with her.

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flamingo40 · 14/03/2020 12:03

My mum lives alone too so I'm trying to keep us away from too much social interaction as we are her only support should she need anything.
Difficult when you have children at high school and college but I'm being as cautious as I can.
I'll admit last week I was very chilled out about it but fear is setting in now

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Griefmonster · 14/03/2020 12:09

Advice on social distancing will help. If you need to be cautious for other people's benefit then follow that advice: publichealthmatters.blog.gov.uk/2020/03/04/coronavirus-covid-19-what-is-social-distancing/

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Notanalien · 14/03/2020 12:44

I agree. We are changing our routines in case DM needs us. We have cancelled all plans for now and don't plan to socialise. I always keep my cupboards stocked up as a rule so we have not had to go out and buy more. We will see how it goes for now but certainly for us the main issue is school. Even if they do close or even if I decide to pull DD out, we would still need an additional five days to ensure she has no dormant symptoms that could then be passed to my DM.

I wonder too about the advice to keep your distance within the home... I must admit I would find this particularly hard - DD is 13 and I want every cuddle she still wants to give!

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daisypond · 14/03/2020 12:53

I’m very ill myself and can do nothing to help my very elderly parents 250 miles away. They don’t have internet. They must not come to me, in a virus hotspot. One of my children, aged 20, is in a complete lockdown country.

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Patchworkpatty · 14/03/2020 12:55

Notanalien I would take your child out of school, and do as you planned.. not worth the risk .

This is what I have done. Same scenario only it's me who is immunodeficient

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Notanalien · 14/03/2020 13:09

Oh I'm sorry @daisypond, that sounds really difficult.

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