Grandparents and childcare?

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My DM looks after dc 3 times a week. DM has asthma and heart condition.

We have had one case of CV but I just feel like it's too risky having DM look after dc?

My mum collects and looks after DS three days a week after school, using public transport. We stopped that a week ago, for the duration of this epidemic. I'm lucky that it was possible to book DS into after-school childcare instead, and arrange temporary changes to working patterns so DH and I can make the 6pm pick-ups. Not seeing DM weekly is a wrench but we're talking on the phone a lot and Skypeing. For context, my DM doesn't have any known underlying conditions, but she's well into her 70s.

If you can make alternative arrangements, I'd do it - apart from anything else, it's not worth the guilt if your DM caught it through helping you with childcare. (If alternative arrangements aren't possible - as is the case for my MIL who looks after other grandchildren - then you do what you have to do, and cross fingers.)

We saw my parents for the last time yesterday. They are both in a vulnerable group, especially dm. I can’t stop them catching it elsewhere but couldn’t live with the guilt if we passed it on to them. It’s not worth the risk in my opinion.

Yes we have stopped contact with grandparents too. They are in their 70s, healthy though.

How old is your DM and does she have any health conditions?

Sorry I misread your second sentence as DC had those conditions

It is too risky for your mother with underlying health conditions. She needs to be protected and stay away from your children during this pandemic!

She's 68... so yes I will be arranging alternative childcare! DM won't like this!

My 65 year old Mum looks after my son while I'm at work

She has no existing health conditions and I have no alternative childcare so unless guidelines change to advise against this, I imagine we'll carry on as we are for now

Obviously if she said she wouldn't want to look after him anymore I would have to stay home with him but I don't know if I would keep my job if I did (I work as admin in the NHS). DH is self employed so has to work or makes no money