Is this ok?!?!

[MotherOfFrenchies]

My partners ex has returned today from the Canary Islands with their 2 kids after a 4 day break. It’s our weekend to have them, she dropped the 6 year old DD off an hour ago, she has since said to my partner on the phone that her eldest is now in isolation and not going to school because he “has the sniffles” - is it just me or is it irresponsible for her to send the 6 year old to us for our weekend??

Sorry to drip feed!! Pressed send too soon... the 6 year old said to me that BOTH her and her brother were unwell during the break (although she didn’t seem to be unwell - but you just don’t know!) Mum is claiming she “didn’t know how serious it was here and she wouldn’t have sent the 6 year old if she’d known - they’ve been back in the country since 2am today so surely she’d have seen something somewhere!?

Current advice is to self isolate if you have persistent cough and/or fever.

’Sniffles’ isn’t a symptom.

Plus these are children. The reality is they’ll need to be cared for if they’re unwell.

When is common sense going to return to the country?

Stop the hysteria. Kids still need to see parents even if their brother has the “sniffles”

“The sniffles” is what she told us it was. My partner has found out since that the eldest has shown similar symptoms to covid-19 and the youngest to a lesser extent. She sends kids to ours when they’re ill which usually isn’t a problem as shit happens, but I think she’s being blasé during this weird time. I get that she values her weekends off from her youngest (eldest is 15 so comes and goes as he pleases) but just think she could’ve at least let us know before drop off - we have a 2 year old son to consider as well

So you would have refused to take him if you had known before?

If the eldest has been ordered by school to self-isolate, how can that be when he lives with his mum and younger sister?? Should the whole family isolate or not?

To be honest, both parents need to step in. Your H can’t just say “I’m not taking him”

Fever, aching, feeling like shit - I know it could be any type of cold flu, but if they hadn’t just returned from holiday I wouldn’t be worried!

It’s in this country, so what difference does it make that they were in the canaries?

The reality according to all the evidence is your 2 year old is at less risk than you are.

Your H can’t just say “I’m not taking him”

If th eldest is in isolation at home surely the mother and young child should be too? Otherwise, it makes an absolute nonsence of the whole notion od isolating.
In these circumstances I think the nrp can absolutely say they can't have the child. No point in spreading it to yet another family!
NRP can have facetime contact etc and be ready to step in to help by ensuring his previous family have everything they need while in isolation.

Because real life doesn’t work like that. And it doesn’t even sound like corona anyway.

If they’d first shown symptoms when they were with you would you have kept them for a week rather than sending them back to her?

It’s done now. Look after them. I’m sure it’ll be fine.

We're going to move this over to the dedicated Coronavirus topic now.