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Am I overreacting to ask DH to stay home?

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ElephantsAlltheWayDown · 08/03/2020 10:03

DH is currently on a fellowship where he spends three weeks a month at a US university and one week a month here. He has complete control over when and where he goes (he has an office there but doesn't have to put in hours, if that makes sense).

The university is in a town where there's a rapidly rising number of coronavirus cases. The university itself has cancelled all uni-funded travel and classes and is asking people to work from home.

He's currently here in the UK, with us, and is supposed to fly back in a couple days. I want him to stay until we're all due to fly over there in early April. I'm concerned about the possibility of our family being separated if his area goes into lockdown, or if flights are cancelled, or if one of us gets sick and has to recover alone. I'm hoping none of these things will come to pass, but I'd rather be wrong and look a little foolish, than be wrong and have the family separated in a time of crisis.

Is this reasonable or a massive overreaction? It would disrupt his plans (although most of his commitments have already been cancelled over the virus, and likely the rest will be too).

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Frenchfancy · 08/03/2020 10:04

I think in this case I agree with you.

MoltonSilver · 08/03/2020 10:48

You are being reasonable.

BeansOnToast4T · 08/03/2020 11:00

Your plan sounds very sensible.

TipseyTorvey · 08/03/2020 11:02

Given how little response the US are giving this I totally agree with you. Its spreading really fast there because Trump said its a democratic hoax. I suspect flights will start to be cancelled soon as well which could very well mean separation like you say.

Karwomannghia · 08/03/2020 11:05

If his uni has asked people to work from home does that not include him?

ElephantsAlltheWayDown · 08/03/2020 12:32

Thanks all, that's reassuring. People IRL have gone either way (the ones who think it's an overreaction think it's absolutely nuts).

If his uni has asked people to work from home does that not include him?

He would need to work from home, but he'd still probably meet colleagues elsewhere. He can work from here to an extent, but not as effectively.

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onlinelinda · 08/03/2020 12:54

Definitely not over reacting.

nosleepp · 08/03/2020 13:02

Entirely reasonable

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