I am going through perimenopause at the moment, and the lady on TikTok who started the "We do not care" club is currently my personal hero, so I will preface with saying that I am at a point in life where I just say what I say, it is always the truth as I see it, and without question some will not like it.
There's no question in my head that both people's have a right to live independently in the place they roughly consider to be home. That includes living as they choose, under whatever political and value system suits them and, importantly, in a way that guarantees they are not oppressed for their identity.
I don't think it matters one iota that Muslims were a majority in 1916 - of course they bloody were. Jews in the land of Israel / Palestine had been through two significant genocides, ethically cleansed, banned from buying land, subjugated under law and generally made miserable for millennia by successive groups. That is going to result in you being a minority and it doesn't erase your right to be there or to self-determine.
So given these are two very different groups with extremely different ideas on what they think life should be, not to mention very long ranging mutual animosity, there is no way to do this without a two state solution.
IMO there is potential down the road for the two to become very friendly, but that is determinant on whether or not the Palestinians are willing to deradicalize from their current position. To be specific, am I saying all Palestinians are radical Islamist terrorists?
No.
But I do think we need to look the issue square in the eye and say they have been radicalised for generations to Jew hate, to normalising murder and violence and so on and this sadly means they pose a risk to Jews at the present time.
Sorry to say that, but it is true IMO.
Can you imagine seeing bodies of young women paraded through your hometown and chasing the truck cheering? Can you imagine your village attending some ghastly funeral / celebration for two babies your government kidnapped and strangled to death? No. It really isn't normal. And no amount of oppression creates that. It's cultural.
I am not Palestinian, but I recall my sister at kindergarten being made to dress in military clothes and march and chant for death to America. The best marcher would be rewarded with trying a gun, or even going for a tank drive. This sounds mad, but it was honestly completely normal. And it has to change.
While I am absolutely certain many Palestinians are scared, oppressed themselves and good people - not a single one stepped forward on 7 Oct to stand against it. Not a single one has given up the location of a hostage. Really think about that. It says a lot.
So IMO, there is work to be done before Jews would realistically be safe around a Palestinian population, but once they are, then I hope they can become friendly. Every Arab or Muslim I have spoken to who once hated Jews, stopped hating Jews by spending time with them and realising they are completely fine people and often very similar to Arabs in many ways.
But we speak here about two sides, neither of which is keen on a two-state solution, so I will tell it as I see it.
For Palestinians, they had reasons to feel they owned the lot. They had dominated it for a long time, they had ruled over Jews as subordinates, and they had been free to live wherever they wanted and from their perspective it belongs 100% to them. This ideology is not helped by the fact that they are taught nonsense versions of history. So it was easy from day one for them to say they would never accept any Jewish state. I would add that whilst they might ask for one, IMO they have been offered more than reasonable compromises and turned them all down and that I saw a Hamas spokesperson say last year that they would use a state as a platform from which to attack and annihilate Jews. So as far as I see it, they are a really long way from genuinely wanting two separate, thriving states.
For Israelis, they came at it from a different perspective. They'd had nowhere of their own for 1500 years, and they'd tried pretty hard to live amongst others but it just wasn't working. After centuries of mad persecution and pogroms, they'd just been almost exterminated out of Europe. People will rightly point out that their position in the middle east and north africa was better, and it was, but it was also not a permanent, realistic set-up. For a start, they were not even legal citizens of any of the places they lives, even after presence there for almost 3000 years. They were denied basic rights like buying land or being in government. They were subjected to many, many pogroms and the whims of whatever leader came along and decided to exile or harass them. It was shit. And understandably they wanted independence in the place they came from.
So I think they approached it from the outset as having nothing and getting something, which whilst still less than 30% of what was originally Israel, it was a lot better than nothing.
So this is ultimately why one group started off keen to make peace and the other group started out absolutely committed to the destruction of the other.
I do think Jews, and Israel have tried in a pretty honest way to make peace with Arabs - not just in Palestine but everywhere, but there are limits to what you can do with people who are quite literally trying to exterminate you. The two groups don't play by the same rules and do not have the same goals and to be really honest with you, when Gazans parachuted into Israel and butchered, raped and kidnapped completely innocent people in such massive numbers - Israelis had just had enough.
Whether right or wrong, everyone here is only human, and 8 decades of people trying to kill you is a lot. I think they were angry. I think they remain angry, and the grotesque parading of hostages continues to pick at the wound. So it's unsurprising they are not trying to make peace plans. Would you be?
But when all of it is dealt with, Jews do not hold grudges. They don't hate Europeans who exterminated their grandparents, they don't hate the Arabs who exiled them. They just wanted to get on with living and I think if someone said tomorrow they could make a two state deal with some sacrifices ans that would give them peace, they would do it.
And because they are a democracy, what individual politicians thought would be of no consequence.
But I don't think Israel should make concessions, which is what you asked. I think they made them all, for decades and it's gotten them nowhere. I think it's time finally to hold both groups to the same standard.
No more normalising firing rockets at civilians.
No more aid money used for pay-to-slay.
No more European funded education where kids learn to kill Jewish people.
No more double standards.
It's time now really for Palestinians to begin recognising their part in this. That if they want freedom to import / export or travel into Israel they have to stop trying to kill Jews. They have to accept that if 2 million Arabs can live safely and equally and be friendly with their Jewish neighbours that maybe they should offer the same in Palestinian territories.
I realise Israel has played a part in it becoming as it has and some behavior by settlers has been utterly atrocious, but I am personally at a point now where I am asking myself, "why do they need to settle? Why should Jews not be able to live in the ancient lands they have been tied to for 3000 years"? So by that I mean that they should be able to live there in just the same way Arabs can live in Israel proper.
2 million Arabs are welcome and live safely and equally in Israel. Rather than demanding Jews leave the west bank, or Judea and Samaria, why not instead demand that 2 million of them are allowed to do the same? Isn't that more what justice looks like?
Fairness aside, Gaza, and indeed Afghanistan, Yemen and other places are shining examples of the fact that ethnically cleansing places isn't a good idea. It stops people mixing and learning from one another and I guarantee you when you strip the meaningless nonsense politics out of the situation, Jews and Muslims have a LOT in common. Particularly Mizrahi and Sephardic Jews. And they really should be living together as cousins, friends, and equals.
They need to learn this.
Not to have the message reenforced that justice = ethnically cleansing Jews from Jewish ancestral land.
The whole situation has escalated because no one was willing to set the standards of behavior for both parties. There has always been one standard for Israel where they have to behave perfectly, whilst the Palestinians can do whatever they like and return none of the same conditions and people just say "oh yes, but the nakba".
Sigh.
I can't count but honestly, since 1920 literally tens of millions of people have been displaced, myself included. Life doesn't get better by becoming terrorists or trying to annihilate people for stuff that happened 80 years ago.
Jews knows this better than anyone.
It's unfortunately time everyone learned this.