hugh prob

[niomi]

my bf of 2mths is keen to become a father (again)he has 4 from 3 different mothers . I know he has a bit of a rep but i do love him so also the fact his eldest girl is one of my best friends is not a problem , hes an irish bloke with a great line in the patter .....i`m so confused ....please , some advice would be grateful

so he has 4 kids with 3 different women, the eldest is a friend of yours (he's a lot older than you then i presume?)
how old are you?

you've been with him for TWO months??? i think you should get to know him better, have a relationship first and THEN think about children

What after 2 months!
Please wait

im 23 , my father was very strict and im usually very placid ,but something just pops off in my head when i meet him , this is true love for me and ive told him , he has yet to tell me but i know he does . hes very good looking and plays in a band , he`s 37 ..

i would wait. i really would. 2 months is really no time at all to get to know someone

are you living together?

no , still with my mam ,my dad passed away last year (aged 40) , she seems ok with it cause when i`m getting ready to go out with him they seem to be laughing and having a giggle downstairs , he is very funny ..

well then why not wait until you've been with him a bit longer, you're living together and in a properly committed relationship? there's no hurry really is there?
do YOU want a child?

not really but im afraid ill lose him .....what should i do .....

His previous relatioships were obviously not saved by having children, In fact children may be more likely to drive you apart rather than keep you together.
Two months is such a short period of time, let things develop and enjoy his company if you love him.

if you think he'll leave you just because you won't have a baby after being with him 2 months then he isn't worth being with!

having a baby is a HUGE thing. it has to be something you both want, and remember that it isn;'t jsut a little baby... it'll grow into a child, a young adult. that new person needs the best start you can give it

i don't think that this is the best start is it? you don't want a child right now, your partner has a track record of getting women pregnant and leaving them. you have no home together....

i don't want to be all doom and gloom, but if he loves you then he won 't be pressuring you into starting a family until you are ready to.

Is his name Hugh?

seriously though, I'd wait a while longer if I were you. Having a young baby is really hard work and it can put a lot of strain on a relationship.

i want to thank you all for your sage advice
i finished with "hugh" last night because he is far TOO OLD FOR ME.
i think i was drawn to his "irish charm and wit" and i am a sucker for accents , i`m also too young to be tied down with a kid
thanks again for your support ...n

Are you/were you serious about having a baby after two months with this character or were you just bored?

i was yes , im going through a bit of a crisis what with my dad dying 12mths ago i was drawn to him , like i say hes VERY EASY on the eye and a bit of a rogue , theres more than a bit of a colin firth look to him but i know hed break my heart like the many others ...maybe i was just replacing my dad with him ??????

Is this real ? I have my suspicions.

Glad it's not just me then Aries. My DH is easy on the eye, not in the Colin Firth mould unfortunately, but that wasn't enough for me to decide to have a child with him. Nor has my DH fathered any other children to my knowledge.

Sorry, not enough for me to have a child with him after two months. We waited for 14 years.