Anyone TTC aged 35 or over?

[charley24]

We have 2DD's aged 10 and 6, and are discussing whether to try for one more child.

DD1 - normal birth, DD2 premature born at 32 weeks weighing 2lbs, in SCBU over a month and is perfect - just mild deafness.

Obviously we haven't had anymore thus far due to fear of not getting another miracle, we have been having discussions about perhaps trying, weighing up pros and cons.

DD2 was born by emergency section for reverse blood flow of the placenta. I am looking at info relating to pre birth etc.

Huge decision, I feel about 50/50....the thought of starting again ! Hubby only 5% yes at the moment, but we have only just started discussing at the moment, he is very much if I wanted to he would go along with it, but I am of the opinion it has to be a 100% mutual decision and we have to talk a lot about the situation before we do anything.

Obviously I don't know if I could get pregnant, the risks etc, so camped out on internet finding info !

Just wondered if anyone else has found themselves in this situation and what they did, how they felt etc, would love some guidance.

I wouldn't try if I wasn't really sure, and obviously hubby and I were in agreement. We have spent 6 years not trying perhaps mostly for fear of another preemie and maybe not getting the best outcome.

Sorry if I am a bit waffly, very confused at the moment and just started really giving this thought !

I am almost 35 and ttc~1 - so no stories of conception to share, but the gynaecologist didn't say we were too old if that helps.

Perhaps you could talk to a dr about your concerns about birth if that can help you?

i am 39 and ttc no 2. had no 1 at 37, have had two miscarriages too so am a bit anxious about it

I am 38 and TTC number 1. Had problems with very long cycles and wasn't ovulating and was diagnosed as having a underfunctioning pituitary. I am now being treated for this and ovulating normally but still waiting for the magic BFP six months later.

It's not clear from your post whether you are really worried about your age or about having another prem baby although it's the age you mention in the title. Perhaps you could put a bit more info. about what's really troubling you?

I had my 3rd at 36, and fell the first month! I'm now 39 (nearly 40 ), and just started ttc number 4.........

I agree with CelticStarlight that it sounds like you're more worried about having another prem baby than your age. Were you give a reason as to why DD2 was prem? May be worth having a chat with your gp who may be able to put your mind at rest .