Keep being asked if having another baby (ttc over 3 yrs)- ideas for reply please?!

[looseleaf]

With strangers i quite like to exaggerate and say in a heavy voice that we aren't able to have more. Though it's maybe an idea to go ott with far too much info about trying for a baby?

I'd tell them to feck off... none of their business

We have been TTC no 2 for two years now..I just tell the truth..we are trying and it has't happened yet - ok, you do get the helpful oh, when you relax it will happen comments, but generally, people do mean well, so I just let it go over my head

One pMNetter recommended you just say "not in the next 9 months, no".

not sure where that p crept in from!

Tell them that they should be careful asking questions like that, as some people might find it upsetting.

That is what I did when I was 1 - married, 2 - over 35 and 3 - had not interest in having children. It shut people up instantly.

That's a good one BikeRunSki as makes my point more clearly and politely! I do agree with earlier post about questions being well-intentioned...

I would just be honest. "We would like to but it's not always that easy". I would hope they would then feel embarrassed enough to shut up.

Rene i do generally take this route and often have to in a group setting- I was asked at a dinner with my parents and their friends a few nights ago for instance which somehow did end up embarrassing for me too

I say 'its in Gods hands'.
Because a) its what I believe and b) it subtly implies there is a difficulty without you having to come out and say it and c) it shuts em up as they are worried I will start to talk about Jesus

mamadoc that made me smile! Thanks

Looseleaf- I agree, having kept schtum for 3 years because I found it cringemaking that people would know (let alone be guessing "who's fault" it was). I also withstood 3 years of the medics talking to me in babylanguage about how to make a baby (despite the evidence, that I'd got the hang of that already!). I've recently had an undiagnosed pollup the size of a (large, feta-stuffed) olive removed. Since then, I'm reassured that its nothing to with OH's manhood, so feel at liberty to tell them about my ladybits in full goory details. Good luck all and let the nosey b*ggers mind their own in future.

I used to say "We are working on it"