TTC betrayal!!

[HmRo]

Hi,
Just joined MN.

Strange question but - feeling very cheated, annoyed, scared that after X yrs panicking over falling pregnant after 7 months of trying nothing is falling any where!

Is this usual? Can feel myself getting more wound up/concerned all the time?

Hi HmRo

Welcome to MN. You are completely normal, I think we have it drummed into us from a youngish age that just one missed pill or one night of not being careful will always result in a pregancy. For some lucky people that is the case, for others it takes a lot longer.

Good luck ttc

I concur! Welcome, have a

I've just been thinking the same thing and was going to start a new thread to that effect... . No matter how many times I read over and over again that the average time to conceive is up to six months and that only 80% of couples will be pregnant after a whole year of trying, I still just can't get it through my head! It's been drummed into me so much that one bout of BD without contraception will instantly result in pregnancy that I just don't know what to believe anymore.

My DH keeps trying to reason with me that statistically there's nothing particularly unusual about our situation (Round 5 of TTC No.1, no MCs but no BFPs either ) and no reason to assume I'm a freak of nature. But no matter what he or the GP says I can't help a feeling of rising panic that I really am a freak of nature and there's something wrong with me.... . My rational brain keeps telling me not to panic but my emotional brain keeps worrying and googling various infertility causes to see what I could have . I'm going to see a specialist if there are still no results in the next couple of months... It's ironic as of all the things I thought could happen when we started TTC, the last thing I thought of would be me sitting here eight months later (I have a long cycle) with not a hint of a bump or even a BFP...

I know it's hard to relax InMyPrime but please try to! 5 months for number one is nothing. I'm on the same as you and I'm determined (and failing) to keep panic etc at bay. How old are you? I'm 35.

Hi, Ariesgirl, I'm 32 (and a half, and counting... ) so I know I have some time yet before I need to officially panic but it's so hard to keep a lid on it, isn't it? I'm glad to hear that 5 attempts for no. 1 isn't much - I think it just seems like I've been TTC forever for me because my cycle is about 35-39 days and I missed a period as well back in December (have been trying since October / November).

It was also a shock when I realised that there are only 3 days a month when you can actually conceive - it's such a narrow window of opportunity! It makes me wonder about people who claim to have accidentally got pregnant or had a one-night stand. Seems to me that would be within the realms of statistical improbability, if not impossibility... I'm just amazed there's a human race at all if reproduction is this tricky...

Hi,
Just logged on again. not used to this either yet!
I felt 'normal' comforted for the first time over this whole TTC for the first time in a long time, after reading the postings! (Going to buy a big box of Chocolates for Friend that recommended Mums net!)

I also have DH giving very 'reasonable' and 'sensible' advice every month at the moment - does not help!

Also i now seem to spot pregnant lady's every where i go! I feel numb sometimes but i suppose it shows that those three days are enough!!

Has anyone made 'drastic' changes to diet yet?

Oh, I know just how you feel! To make it worse I did actually manage to get pregnant by accident about 10 years ago (bad timing, didn't work out). Now I really want one, however, I can't seem to manage it. It all seems terribly unfair!

I know that there are lots of people who have been trying far longer then me so like you guys I keep telling myself it's all normal but this last month was 6 months of ttc which I found particularly hard

I haven't really changed my diet that much HmRo as I eat pretty well already though I have been quietly trying to reduce the amount of meat and increase the veg in DP's. Not going down all that well I confess. I'm not brave enough to make him take vitimins yet. Maybe I could spike his dinner with them when he's not looking

Hi TumTumGnu, M' not brave enough to push the vitamins either yet. But if you really want to suggest a change that does not go down well, try to get a commitment to him not drinking alcohol either for the nine months (if it happens) very interesting conversation

I think i have an OK diet, was thinking about trying to add more organic. But not sure the amount of difference that could make?

DC#1- Came off pill, no idea that there were certain days that we had to do it , hey presto 1st cycle!
This only served to reinforce what everyone one had told me as a teenager lol!

TTC#2 however not so simple!
Actually did quite well, getting a bfp after about 6 months, so about average from what they say but MC so now got to start again

sorry about the start again.

Good to know that teenage advice was worth it first time.
Good luck .

This is my first post after lurking for a while. Also being ttc since last October, although only trying properly for last 4 months or so. I can't believe it doesn't just work that you BD at the right time then the baby comes.
Does anyone know how long it usually takes a 32yo to concieve (prob a stupid qn)