4 days late, 4 x bfn, very confused

[PunchlessJudy]

(long - sorry) If you feel like responding I'd appreciate it - I just need to get the frustration out.

I have been late twice in my life. Once was a short chem preg 5 yrs ago and the second was with IVF (2nd attempt) and dd is having her afternoon kip (she's nearly 2)

We'd dearly love to have a 2nd and we're saving for IVF, in the meantime I've just started acupuncture.

I am now 4 days late - so day 30. It wasn't clear when I ov'd this month.

I feel odd - all the potential signs giving me buckets of hope BUT tests come up neg.... however I've done the classic and returned to a test I did in the early hours this morning to see that is it/isn't it evap/faint line... way past the do not return to the test time. I've retested and 5mins after the do not return time there is that almost inperseptable pink line again.

No sign of af - lots of signs of frustration and confusion. Is there any point having hope? Would you leave it two days and retest? I'm not sure I'm strong enough not to crack. So confused. So want it to be good news, but also a little fearful there may be a problem.
All experiences and advice appreciated.

I had an evaporation line last month punchless and did a bit of research. I may not be correct (please can others tell me what they think too), but I think if the line you see is the same colour as the test dye (blue or pink) then its most likely a BFP. If the line is grey'ish, then its probably an evaporation line.

I got a BFP in Dec but only after I fished the test out the bin 30mins later - and it was a very pale blue line, while last month's was definitely grey. But it did take a few more days to get darker, and my first urine test at the GP came back 'borderline', the second one was definitive.

I imagine if you're getting faint lines now then you'll see something stronger in a couple of days - unfortunately, waiting is the only way you'll get real certainty. Fingers crossed for you. x

Thanks Justshaggy for replying and giving me hope it is still possible so many days late.
How is the pg going?
Just said to my dh - why couldn't the test be clearer - he said it is clear within the right time... just it's not the result we hoped for.

Hi,
Is it ok to join in this thread as I'm in the sameish boat. AF is late, and did a test and after a good few mins got a very faint line and now I'm freaking out as I had a miscarriage a couple of months ago and it started out with faint line and then didn't get any stronger so it feels a bit similar this time.
Also wanted to say good luck Punchless! Hope your line gets stronger in a few days - maybe you ovulated later this month?

Welcome! So very sorry about the miscarriage, it's a very hard thing to handle. My good few minutes were quite a few.... yours sound fewer and more likely. It's hard to concentrate on anything else, isn't it?

Hi Punchless, My test was a faint line after the 'test time' had finished and ds2 is now 11 weeks old

The first pg was a definate clear line at 5 days late but this time took several days of retesting before I got the same darkness iyswim.

If the line has any colour in it at all then it is a bfp. I would retest in a few days (or like me buy lots of cheap 99p tests and test each day cause you're too impatient )

I would say there is hope!

Thanks Justshaggy, Naitimum & Dalrymps. Sadly af has just started. I'm sad, but who was I kidding - ttc doesn't come easy to me. The 4 days late was just long enough to start daydreaming about a sib for dd, telling friends and family, and those loved up tired days with a newborn.

Hope you have better news Naitimum.

So sorry to hear that, hope you do get that longed for sibling soon x ((hugs))

Really sorry to hear that Punchless. I really hope you get some good news on your next cycle.

Just a quick update. The start of af hasn't progressed - so just a wipe of the normal fresh blood - since then nothing apart from a dull ache and nausea.
Haven't retested today, bit anxious of ectopic tbh. Any advice appreciated.

Hi Punchless, just saw ths thread, were you pregnant?? xx