Failing to conceive no 2

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Just wondered if anyone has any thoughts... Had a BFP about a year ago but v early chem preg. DS1 took about a year to conceive - am 35, DH 33. Conscious we've not been 'that dedicated' to TTC - seem to tail off some months at the time I ovulate.

What I'm wondering, specifically, is could a 'mild PCOS' (diagnosed early twenties) now be more of an issue - should I ask GP for the test to check my tubes? Been trying for over a year...

In addition to the timing issues of getting down to action I'm also increasingly a fatty (am 3 stone heavier than in 2006) - and I prob drink a few too many gins per week...

I'm guessing I need to do a Zoe Ball and give up drinking altogether..

grateful for any thoughts on whether I should pursue this though... GP first time round marked me down as 'an older mum who'd taken longer than average to conceive'!

tks :-)

As you have been trying for over a year I would go to the docs straight away and arrange tests. As you are over 35 you only need to be trying for 6 months.

I did stretch the truth when I went to the doctors about how long I have been trying and she sent me for tests and my husband is having his swimmers tested too.

Alcohol does make a big difference I think. I read once that the liver is involved with processing hormones, at that point we'd been ttc for nearly two years and I liked a glass of wine, so we gave up and we had a BFP within a month. Sadly I mc'd but we had a month or two of relaxing then gave up alcohol completely and got a BFP 5 months after that mc.

I don't like to preach about people not having alcohol but I really do think just based on our own experiences it helped. But who knows in reality it may have had no impact at all and it was just luck and nowt to do with abstaining.

Oh and I'm 38 so in the same age group as you. And more than a little chubby (but trying on that front too).

Hi,

PCOS does not go away because the cystic follicles associated with this always return. Your weight gain as well may be partly due to PCOS as well.

As Lou has rightly mentioned, you should now go to the GPs particularly as you have had a previous diagnosis of PCOS as well. Do not delay any longer than you have. It is likely that you are not ovulating regularly if at all. Forget also about this business of timing of intercourse, it won't achieve anything and it could damage your relationship.

GP needs to refer you to a gynae asap in your circumstances without this person doing tests (the previous dx of PCOS will suffice here and PCOS is not a gynae problem for a GP to be messing around with).