Thinking about starting TTC for DC2, did anyone find it as easy to conceive second time, if it was fairly quick first time?

[DawnAS]

Hi there,

In a bit of a tricky situation as DH is now more comfortable talking about a 2nd DC (it's taken him a while...) and our only DD is just coming up to 1 year old.

I am going to be 36 in June and we started TTC back in June 2008, conceived in the first month but had a MC but then conceived the following month with our gorgeous DD as the result.

Did anyone find that it was as quick to conceive second time around? I know it sounds crazy but our main reason for delay is our mortgage payments are so high with massive interest rates, but it's due for renewal in December so hoping that interest rates stay low, then we can afford a second child (if you can ever really afford children ).

But, don't want to delay in case it takes a lot longer than the first time, considering my age...

Any advice please?

Took us 6 weeks to concieve first time, when I was 26, then had mc, then took us 3 years to concieve dd, dc2 concieved when not really trying, had unprotected sex twice I reckon.

Just don't think you can really know, I would imagine, given that you were both obviously very fertile less than 2 years ago you are unlikely to have big problems. 36 isn't that old really.

We conceived our first child ridiculously easily 4 years ago when I was 30.

We started trying for number 2 when she turned 1 - we thought it would take a bit longer this time, but never expected to have any problems as DD was conceived so easily.

We are still trying 2 years later. It turns out DH has a very low sperm count which was a massive shock. No one can explain how DD came along so quickly, except to say that DHs problem must have occurred since then.

In your position I would start trying as soon as you can possibly afford / cope with another.

Good luck

Wonderstuff and ElsaElsewhere, thank you so much for your responses.

I sort of guessed that no-one can really give us an answer on it and it really is just luck I think. Not sure that I'll be able to persuade DH quite yet but when I talk about it now, he is definitely more 'involved' in the conversation I think.

Problem is that my PG wasn't easy, high risk for Downs with failed CVS and then an Amnio and then I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes. All of the above are bound to happen again I would think with the next one, but I'm prepared for it all.

Thanks again ladies!

Fell pg with DD1 accidentally, we were always very careful so I knew exactly when it had happened but thought I'll be fine and the MAP had given me spots once {blush}. I was 36. DD2 was a hole in one so to speak.

Knew I'd ovulate mid-Feb so tried 14th & 17th (how romantic) and DD2 was born bang on her due date.

If everyone could timetable them it would be easy, but I think you have to be pretty flexible and just decide when to take the plunge.

Good luck!

first month with dd and first month this time, i also wasnt sure i would be so lucky for it to happen so quick!! good luck
to u xx

Think your DD and mine are about the same age (mine is going to be one on 2nd June).

We're thinking of TTC #2 soon so that DD would be about 2 if we did have another one. We are hoping it will be really quick this time round too (was first month with DD which was quite a shock!) but of course nothing is guaranteed and I think we just have to take what nature sends our way.

DH is one of four and would like four () and given that I will be 36 in August we need to get on with it!

Will watch with interest!

Bumps x

Hi Ladies,

I'm 36 and conceived DS [now 2] in second month of trying. We are now in 7th month of ttc#2 and I have just had blood tests to check hormones are as they should be. DH is due to go for SA but has been putting off until AF is due [in the hope that I get a BFP and he won't have to go !].

DH wants six, Bumps as he is one of six . I would be quite happy with two or three if we can manage to get pg.

HI laydees i conceived DD within 2 month she is now a 17 month old bundle of joy and we are on month 1 of ttc number 2 so fingers crossed x

It depends how 'desperate' you are as well sometimes.

My friend concieved after a month with her first. She thought 2nd time would be the same and is quite obsessed with it. Needless to say it hasn't happened yet and she was talking about how long she had been trying after 2 months. I find that the more desperate you are, the longer it takes.

DS took 3 years. I had endometriosis, 2 laparoscopies, DH had different sperm results each time but was never great results, sometimes low motility, sometimes slightly low count and sometimes the morphology. Told we needed IVF then I found out I was pg 3 weeks before we were due to start!

I'm hoping that I now I have been pregnant, when we want to ttc DC2 it won't be so hard!

I conceived first time trying with dd1.

We waited over 5 years before trying for our second, for complicated reasons, and like you, I was worried it would take a long time. In fact I conceived in the fourth month of trying, a month when we only actually had sex once Am now 12 weeks pregnant.

Thank you all.

Bumps, you kindly offered advice on my weaning thread didn't you? Yes, our DDs are similar in age as mine is going to be one on the 8th June. I will be 36 in June so in a very similar situation.

Thanks everyone else. We're not actually using any contraception at the moment apart from the natural method and has DH has no idea at all when I ovulate, I'm just suggesting BDing around the right time and praying that the natural method doesn't work! Cheeky I know, but since he's not insisting that we use other protection, he either thinks that his method is infallible, or isn't really worried if I fall PG!

I'm not too hopeful though as we didn't use contraception for 6 months (a few years ago) due to problems with the pill and I didn't fall PG. So I guess we'll just see...

xxx