Am I being over sensitive? - GP is rubbish

[eggsovereasy]

I'm having problems with my GP at the moment. Briefly, I told her we've been TTC for over 12 months and that I'd had previous tests done with a different partner 10 years ago and they had come back clear... so she looks at my records and told me to stop worrying as I had obviously been pg before as I'd had a premature baby!! After reading my own notes back to her I explained that it was ME who was prem!!! She then snapped and said I should not bother with CBFM/opk etc and just refer me to fertility clinic for IVF (although we prob wont be eligible as DH has DS with previous relationship) . SHe then said to go home and discuss with DH, have day 21 bloods done and come back in a few weeks when we have decided. To say I have no trust in her is an understatement and I've still not rang to make appt or get results of blood test.

After a BFN last night (due today/tomorrow), I am now trying to get an appt with another GP at the practice but not sure if it will make any difference? I just feel like some support would be nice... oh and maybe a suggestion that DH gets SA done first before we rush down the IVF road?

Every month it gets harder.

AM I being over sensitive?

She sounds rather insensitive, but the fertility clinic won't rush into IVF without doing investigations like SA, bloods, scans etc first to ascertain what the problem is.

If she's referred you to the fertility clinic, they will take over from there and send you for all the appropriate tests (at least that's what happens here in the Midlands) Most GPs aren't experts in reproductive medicine!

You poor thing. Its a horribly stressful time anyway and she was extremely useless...

It would probably be worth seeing if there is another GP you could be referred to although you may need to think about how you would like to take it forward if you do need some assistance.

The fertility clinic won't rush you into IVF, and if you had another medical worry you'd be happy to be referred to a specialist, wouldn't you?

Also depending on where you live you may qualify for NHS IVF (if that is what you need) as in my area it is only if you have a child together you do not qualify.

In my experience GPs are a bit rubbish when it comes to ttc/pregnancy/miscarriage etc.

thanks for your messages. I do feel slightly more positive today . I am going to ring the surgery and ask to see a different GP. I'll see how it goes from there. Had a long chat with DH last night and we both agree that we should go for it, whatever happens, as we both want a family and we're both not getting any younger!!

I'm trying to find out the criteria for IVF on the NHS in my area although not having much joy?