Hi Giraffe
I have PCOS too, though my symptoms are not always as severe as you describe. I had a miscarriage in Jan 2009, but I am now 17wks after conceiving on Metformin and staying on it for the first 12 wks. Will try to answer some of your questions from my experience.
Firstly, your dose sounds a bit low - I was put on 1500mg a day by an Endocrinologist who I saw privately. I think the more you weigh, the more you need to take - and I'm a thin PCOS, had a BMI of about 21 when I started it (- which rapidly dropped almost into the underweight range while on the Met - so if you are looking to control your weight the Met may help with that)
It's good that you are building up the dose gradually as that helps with the side effects. I had quite bad side effects - nausea, upset tummy, fatigue and lack of appetite, esp after going up to the higher dose, but they did gradually ease over a period of about 4 weeks, so I would recommend sticking with it even if it's rough going at first. It's supposed to help if you take the pill bang in the middle of your meal, rather than after or before food.
Re: alcohol - officially avoid, but in practice you can follow this quite loosely. I did have a glass of wine at least once a week. Any more than that and I really felt it. If you want to enjoy a big night out I'd miss your evening dose of the Met.
Now, diet. Metformin is thought to be more effective if you follow a low GI diet, low carb probably even better (but not those silly no carb, Atkins style diets), and do regular moderate exercise. Some women say if they eat too much sugar / refined carbs it makes the Met's side effects worse, but I didn't really notice this to be honest.
For your shopping list - I have found 2 books on low GI diet useful, one by Jenny Brand Miller and one by Rick Gallop (search on Amazon) - they go over the basic principles and have recipes. So, eg. pasta is actually ok, but a) cook it al dente, b) only eat about a quarter of a plate and fill the rest of your plate with fresh veggies/salad and c) have some protein with it. Same with toast - you can have it, but stick to wholemeal, don't eat too much at once and if possible have with protein, eg. peanut butter.
I stuck to this quite strictly at first and a bit more loosely later on. My cycle had gone totally awol and it came back quickly on the Met, BUT I can never be sure if it was the Met that caused this, as I used to have semi-regular cycles (before my miscarriage) anyway. I decided it was worth it to improve my chances of conceiving a sticky one, which I seem to have done now...
If you want to chat to more ladies taking Metformin for PCOS you will meet lots of them on the Verity discussion board.
Sorry that was a long one but no-one else had responded so I hope that helps some...