Hello everyone,
First of all I hope you can excuse me for starting a new thread. I?ve come over to mumsnet a few times each week for the past month or so, looked at this forum, been bewildered and wimped out of posting.
Next weekend I get married, to my wonderful H2B. Having children has always been a high priority for us, but we had always intended to wait for another 5 or so years before trying to start a family as we?re still fairly young. We never thought we'd be the couple who tried soon after they got married!
Well, things change.
Three months ago H2B had an urgent ultrasound and was diagnosed with testicular cancer, he also had a chest X-ray and liver scan which showed the cancer had not spread. However, we had to say goodbye to the misbehaving chappie. (It?s OK, he wasn?t my favourite one).
With each month that has passed, we have had more reassuring results. The signs are that surgery has been curative, and his chances of continuing to have no cancer are over 98%. He is on strict surveillance for the next two years.
We are fairly settled, and very much in love. When you are, your compulsion to want to have children is enormous. Add into the mix the sheer terror of the possibility of having children taken away from you and the decision becomes obvious. As it stands, H2B has a raised FSH level which could be because his body is adjusted to having one testicle, or his fertility could be impaired. We don?t, and won?t, know for a while. We have kindly been permitted to bank sperm (next week!). When he got the diagnosis, it was 3 days before the testicle was removed, and we?re frightened beyond belief about that happening again and having all chances of children being removed with it.
So, we?ve decided to start trying after the honeymoon. I?m having my implanon out on 11th May and let the baby-making commence!
I always imagined some serene moment, where my husband and I would look at each other and simultaneous suggest we start a family. We?re very excited, but when your life gets turned upside down it?s difficult to feel in control, and I think it?s fair to say we are a bit daunted by what?s in store. I hope I can share what I anticipate will be one big rollercoaster ride with you.