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The 'I have been TTC forever' club- are you in it??

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littletortie · 28/03/2010 20:27

It feels like I have been in it for years and years and years but actually its been 3- but the memebership is starting to wear thin now

I am trying to stay positive- eating really well, having acupuncture, listening to quack CDs visualising my ovaries having big ripe eggs- but its hard.

All our tests have been normal apart from a bit of endo which has been blasted away and an adhesion which has been separated. DHs tests are 'marvellous'. I have a DD from a previous relationship- she is 7 next month. And me and DH had a MC 2 years ago.

So why isnt it happening? We have 6 months of trying before we have IVF (Drs are in a rush to get me pregnant before tiny patch of endo comes back- seems a bit silly to me).

I just wondered if there was anyone in the same boat who needs spurring on as much as me??!!!

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littletortie · 28/03/2010 21:18

Chhhrrrrrist!!!

Am I the only one????!!!!!!

Now I am depressed......

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UmBongo · 28/03/2010 22:38

There is a few of us around, we have been ttc for nearly 2 years, have ds who is now 3, my bloods came back fine, dh has low motility, but has only done one sample as yet. We have to go for a joint dr appt next week. Same really, don't know why not won a baby.

There are a few long haulers on here - the sore ladybits thread is populated with a few! Although that thread seems a bit deserted over the last few days - everyone is obviously off shagging again!

whenIwasyourageplutowasaplanet · 28/03/2010 23:05

Ooo can I join? Me and DH have been TTC for nearly 2 years. We have a DD who is nearly 3 and who was conceived ridiculously easily.

Tests show DH has low sperm count and low motility. He is currently undergoing a barrage of tests. He has given up alcohol and caffeine, is exercising more, taking vits and is as miserable as sin

Consultant says our only hope may be IVF but we would have to pay for it ourselves and we can't really afford it without getting into lots of debt.

So just keep trying every month in the hope of a miracle....tis v depressing.

yellowflowers · 29/03/2010 00:11

Trying since Oct 2007. Trying properly (temps etc) since May 2008. So nearly two and half years. Dh first two sperm tests at low end of average. Most recent test absolutely normal. I have pcos but all other tests (ORT etc) fine. Starting clomid and iui next month.

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littletortie · 29/03/2010 06:13

I have tried to go on the TTC threads but just end up comparing myself to women who seem to conceive within a few months and getting depressed- tend to get a horrible feeling everyone is overtaking me- does that make sense??

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yellowflowers · 29/03/2010 11:25

Yes - almost everyone who was on the original ttc thread I was on has a baby now. Very pleased for them but also very depressing. I am ttc no 1 and it has been a long time.

nomoremagnolia · 29/03/2010 12:35

Tortie - bless you I know exactly how you're feeling, I started a thread like this a couple of years ago - but that became depressing when there were only two of us left even out of the 'been ttc since forever' gang! I honestly wish all of you the best of luck with ttc, I'm 9wks pg after just over 4 years of ttc and two cycles of IVF. I won't be annoying enough to say anything about that though, I know how it can sound when someone comes back and tells you it'll all be ok! I just want to give all of you a big un-MNy ((hug))

indigotall · 29/03/2010 18:18

Hi there everyone,
Been TTC for a couple of years too. I?ve had a few gynaecological problems in the past with endo and fibroids, but we are being tested and everything seems to be Ok, just no baby??. Ho hum ?..

Hi there Littletotie, I really know how you feel. Every advert is about babies, and everyone has advice on how to get pregnant. Usually from people who had no problem getting up the duff.
The one that really got me was a girl about half my age with her baby on her hip telling me how to have sex properly. I was very polite and smiled, BUT REALLY I kissing boys round the back of the bike shed when she was in nappies.

Oh and my personal favourite bit of advice, ?just try and relax??.. I hate that one, it?s like another way of making it the woman?s fault she?s not pregnant.

In the mean time who wants to join me in high heel wearing, cinema going and all the other things we can do because we are not pregnant.

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littletortie · 29/03/2010 18:37

I wont join you with high heel wearing cos I just walk as though I have poo'd myself but vwe are doing a lot of weeknds away to help us cope with the no-baby situation.

DD finds it hard to cope with which breaks my heart- she calls herself a lonely child rather than only child

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UmBongo · 29/03/2010 22:33

Oh tortie that is so sad! DS doesn't say much but I have had "wheres my sister" when all my mates have been having their ds2s (mostly girls!) I was watching ds play in the garden by himself the other day and nearly wept! (very sorry to those who are ttc#1 I know that comment won't help you)

flowerfairy71 · 29/03/2010 23:47

been trying for nearly 2 years after having my son 5 years ago - feeling extremely depressed and down about the whole situation. constantly being asked do you just have the one (sorry if you havent got the one yet)its like i am an outcast of the school playground.

Chipper10 · 30/03/2010 08:08

Hello everyone, well we have been trying for 2 years (sort of as medical condition I have has meant no periods til recently but I was only aware of that for last year). Our DD is nearly three and most of my friends are on their second, either pregnant or have had baby. I also had a mc in december and have gone from being really positive about it to being very depressed so I understand how some of you feel.
DH and I have decided to stop trying, act as if DD is an only child by choice to get everyone off our backs and also to stop us putting things on hold because we might get pregnant, if that makes sense.
DD's best friend's mum is pregnant and if I have to hear about how awful it is being pregnant or how she does want to go through the birth again I think I will cry.
It is crap and again, I also apologise I know I have one and am very lucky.

flowerfairy71 · 30/03/2010 19:40

I also had a mc in august so that really hasnt helped as I think that was my only chance for no.2

Fairygodmother1 · 30/03/2010 20:06

Ooh another club I have membership to!
We started TTC Nov 2007. I have PCOS but DH is all normal. I had Clomid for 6 months which got me ovulating but nothing stuck. I've had 1 month without clomid so far this year & nothing again this month. Just feel like it's never going to happen!

I'm feeling pretty down (which aint gonna help either).

Chipper I'm hearing you on the pregnant ones moaning!

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littletortie · 30/03/2010 21:10

Is there anyone here on the road to fertility treatment or assisted conception?

We are being pushed towards IVF....I am unsure

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Chipper10 · 31/03/2010 09:41

I am on drugs to have periods and was back at the doctors yesterday. Was going to ask to come off them as am fed up, but apparently there is a chance (worst chance scenario) that I am going to have to be on them till menopause, whether I am TTC or not. Left feeling really pissed off.
So no I am not going to pursue any other avenues to get pregnant, I just can't take it. I would probably feel differently if I didn't already have one.
I am fed up of life on hold. Even silly things like not buying new clothes as I want to buy maternity - stupid I know but need to get out of this mind set and accept I am lucky to have one. (Sorry for those TTC #1).

Littletortie - if you think you can cope with IVF then I say go for it. I just don't think I could cope with doing it and not getting pregnant. I guess I must be a glass half empty person.

Chipper10 · 31/03/2010 10:36

Sorry am really grumpy today, ignore me.

Spongerider · 31/03/2010 11:35

Hello, can I join? Be gentle this is my first ever MN post! Been trying for about two years now, no known problems, on fifth cycle of Clomid + Oestrogen + HCG trigger injection. I got pregnant last year but we found out at the 12 week scan the baby had died at 10 weeks.

I have to go out for a farewell lunch today as my friend is off on maternity leave. Obviously she got pregnant first try (again)!

Icedlemonmuffin · 31/03/2010 12:59

Hi we have been trying for three years (mc last year) and I am finding it quite soul destroying, have good days and bad days!

My dd is nearly 7 and all she wants is a baby sister or brother and it breaks my heart when she asks when they will arrive.

I am sick of all the pregnant people around me as well, I would do anything to be big and round, I would even love being sick and not being able to sleep if it meant I got a lovely podgy baby!

Hi Umbongo rtd gone so shagging will be starting later on, but would rather have a cup of tea and a muffin!

AvadaKedavra · 31/03/2010 13:06

Hello ladies

Unfortunately think I would fit in here

Been trying since August 2006 to conceive a 3rd for me (DD18 DS16)a first for DH, we've had every test going and nothing has found to be wrong, it's just not happening. Sometimes think it'd be easier to have a diagnosis as then we would be able to try and correct whatever it is.

We were advised to have IVF almost 2 yrs ago but we'd have had to fund it ourselves and we can't, plus other practical reasons such as location of the fertility centre, work etc.

So I am pulling on my heels and joining Indigotall at the cinema!

Fairygodmother1 · 31/03/2010 19:37

Little I've been referred for IVF

Know what you mean about people falling first try or 'accidently'!!!! Why can't I be that unlucky - unlucky in everything else!

It's my turn to be grumpy now {grumy emoticon]

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littletortie · 31/03/2010 20:49

I have just started to have acupuncture with a brilliant lady in Coventry- she is great, really calming and really knows her stuff. We have 6 months before IVF starts to try and conceive naturally so we are giving it a good shot!!!

Have bought a TTC hypnotherapy CD to give a go and some fab books with lots of hints and tips (nutrition, lifestyle etc) and am also doing a bit of yoga. We have treated ourselves to a consultation with Zita West next week as well- I remember the days when a treat was new shoes

Feeling positive- positive steps towards our goal.

Sorry if Ive made anyone feel sick- am totally trippy on acupuncturists moxa!!!

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Chipper10 · 01/04/2010 08:24

Littletortie - I have thought about acupuncture too, so I await with interest how your sessions go. Is it quite pricey? I feel like if I started I wouldn't be able to stop.

It is nice to hear someone positive.

TIBBYCHOP · 01/04/2010 10:30

Littletortie, I actually banned myself from looking on this site for a while because I was starting to get real feelings of bitterness every time I read of someone else's good news. Like you, I already have a child and know that I am so lucky compared to some couples, but try telling that to my hormones when yet another friend anounces she is pregnant or another colleague comes into to work to show off her latest beautiful baby. I saw two ladies of a certain age (like myself) with babies in pushchairs and I was so jealous that it must have shown on my face because they stopped talking mid conversation! Hope I haven't scared anyone with this post, when the hormones aren't raging (clearly they are today!) I'm actually quite a sane person! x

lucybrad · 01/04/2010 13:35

i feel like this already and im on cycle 8. beginning to wish i had never started trying, as i didnt feel half as broody then as i do now!

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