When would YOU DTTD?

[lucybarnes]

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Hi Lucy,

Dh and I were trying for 18 months and had two mis c's during that time. I used Clearblue ovulation sticks to tell me when I was ovulating. After 2nd Mis C I decided to slash out on the clearblue ovulation monitor (it's about £100 and you need to buy sticks for it which are about £20).

This worked for us (I am now 8 weeks pg) I think it worked well because it tells you the days just before ovulation. I would do the test in the morning and we would make love that night. So we were probably doing it just as I was ovulating rather than taking the test in the morning, finding out I was ovulating and then not making love until that evening, when I had already ovulated.

Of course this may just have been good luck but I just felt a little more in tune with what was happening with my fertility. (I am 38)

Hope this helps and best of luck!

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Lucy, sorry for delay. Just took advantage of rare sunshine here to potter around the garden.
I think you should book in some time with your DH on day 13 and if he could be home for 2 days just go for it for those two days.
Have you had any tests yet? I am lucky that my husband works in the health service so he pulled some strings and got me in to see the fertility dept to investigate the 2 miscs. They discovered a raised level of protein S which causes my blood to clot. This, they think may have caused the miscs.
If you are in a position to go private to get some tests done, I would. More for the reassurance than anything.
Everyone says "just relax and it will happen if you don't think about it" but how can you not think about it when you get up every morning and pee on a stick?!
We went on a nice holiday in Jan (Le Sport, St Lucia- thoroughly recommended) which we booked when I was PG in Nov. It was supposed to be our last nice holiday before the baby arrived. Obviously I lost that one but it did get us both relaxed and able to prioritise life. We decided we would book in some "Le Sport" days at home where neither of us were allowed to open our laptops and work and we had to enjoy relaxing without feeling guilty about it. (Not easy as we both work too hard.) I also made some changes at work ( I have my own business, so easier for me to do) where I did less and delegated much more. I think this has had a huge impact on my stress levels which I am sure has been a factor in not conceiving more quickly.

One more bit of advice? Do not compare yourself to your friends who are same age etc. I have a friend who married 2 months before us is a year older and is pg with her second. Hard, but I am still delighted for her.

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Yes, baby asprin at first. Now having heparin injections every morning until I am 12 weeks, then back to baby asprin.

Will have my first scan at the end April to check everything ok. We could go for an ealier one but as midwife said it would be a shame to use the favour while I am feeling pregnant. Better to save it in case I get a problem.

I know what you mean about fertile families. I have 8 neices and nephews. There has never been any problem with conception in my family before. I am hoping for twins! At least I could get it out of the way in one go. I'm not sure I could go through the stress of conceiving again.

Have a great break over Easter. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Do you have children already? This (if all goes to plan) will be my first. People assume that as I don't have any, I must be a hardened career women without a maternal bone in my body. Truth is you can't determine when you will meet the man of your dreams. (Sorry, only married 18 months and still flushed with romance- long may it last)

Good luck with it!

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