About to start trying for 3rd - anyone with me?

[Milly1976]

DH and I are 34, DS1 is 5, DS2 is 2 1/2.

We've never put so much thought into having a baby, but after months of discussions we've decided to start trying this summer. Bit anxious as my cycles were 39 days before DS2, and I'm worried that I've left it too late. But I ovulated this month which is a good sign.

My family will think we are mad as the boys are full-on, and we live in London so huge houses with big gardens are not an option, and the schools, well where do I start...?

I just feel the real need for another baby to complete us.

Anyone in the same boat?

Can I join if I'm more hoping than trying? I am desperate for a third but my partner isn't keen so he won't actively ttc! I had a bfp this month and then got af the same day ! so it could happen, and I am ever so slightly obsessed!

Hi Milly, am ttc#3 too, I am 29, DH is 33.
We have a DD who is nearly 10 and a DS who is 5.
I have wanted a third (and fourth!)since DS was about 1, which surprised me but DH always felt we were complete, which I found very difficult.
I had just started coming to terms with the fact, started working and thinking of finally doing my degree when he changed his mind.
I am really happy but also realise it's probably going to be quite difficult with the age gaps, the fact we live in a 3 bedroom house, with little scope for moving and also that I had been quite enjoying work.

It's so hard isn't it?! I can come up with about hundred reasons not to have a third, but the feeling won't go away!

Iknowitsmadbutiwantit - have you repeated your pregnancy test? If you got a positive it means you're preg right? Implantation bleeding?? I can really relate to what you're saying. My DH has only just come round to the idea of three as our two are growing up. He's still less keen than me which worries me a bit!

The other issue for me is work - redundancies are being threatened and 3 of my colleagues are already pregnant so it's not a good time!

notsoteenagemum are you actively TTC at the moment?? Good luck if so!

I did wonder as my period only lasted four days and only two were heavy instead of a week and five heavy, but I have done several more tests all negative, and all the symptoms have gone. Oh well. Sure it'll happen eventually.

Yes and thanks
I had coil removed in feb followed by the AF from hell! then a was late by 2 weeks so was hopefull for BFP but AF arrived more normally though thank goodness.
I suppose this is the first proper month of ttc.
It feels like we have been trying forever though, I am very impatient.
Also I feel we didn't really ttc the other two. DD was unplanned and I got pg with DS straight away.

sparkly on here has a good argument for reluctant DH/P's.

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Read sparklys theory on the link above. I fully intend to use it on my dp!

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Lucy I'm doing the home ovulation checking. Every morning feels like doing a preg test, and waiting for the result! I got the LH surge on day 21. I think quite a lot of women have anovulatory cycles - so fingers crossed next month is good for you.

We're not TTC yet - I've started the folic acid and just waiting for the summer when things a bit calmer at work, and a few deadlines are in!

notsoteenagemum - I'll use that argument on DH when he starts to waver about a third, which I think he is... The thing is I want him to really want a third too, it's too big a deal for me to be the only one who is keen.

Dh although hasn't said he is waivering and we have talked about doing/not doing things in case I get pg,
he hasn't been as up for it as he usually is, which makes me wonder if he is having doubts.

I know he is scared, I had a blood clot that went to my lung when pregnant with dd,
and Ds stopped breathing for a very short but very scary time after he was born,
I think Dh worries that something scary might happen this time round and we may not be so lucky.

notsoteenagemum - it sounds as though you've had a tough time of it with the blood clot and DS. I relate to the feelings of 'we've been so lucky in the past, what if we're not so lucky this time...'.

I also worry about having a child with special needs, and the knock on effect on my current boys.

Well I could talk myself out of it all day long, so why do I still want one?!

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because the only children you regret are the ones you don't have Milly

Lucy - you're right, I should just go for it. It could take months/years to conceive, and all the while my DSs are getting older!

Will discuss with DH tonight as determined it will be a joint decision!