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Conception

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Missed Misscarriage.

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charleepeters · 21/07/2005 21:28

Has anyone had a missed m/c my g.p thinks i may have had one, i am 12 days late for my period and i got a positive test when i was 2 days late but got 3 negatives at various times after. anyway she had bokked me in next week for a pregnancy blood test, but says its more than likely a missed m/c.

Im am assuming that i will eventually start bleeding to get rid of any products like a period, as if it were a normal m/c (i had one 2 years ago) the after that i can carry on tryin, but does anyone know how long before the bleeding will start and if it will be heavier, more painfull?? i want it to hurry up as i want to carry on trying.

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Lonelymum · 21/07/2005 21:31

So sorry CP as I know you are trying for another. Don't know the answers, but if you have had a miscarriage, it would have been a very early one, so it might not be too noticable when the bledding starts. I hope, anyway.

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charleepeters · 21/07/2005 21:33

yes she said it would have had a realy early one - i had an implantation bleed, so it must have only stuck for a couple of days then gone, its just all my other m/c's have been heavly bleeding strieght away so im not sue what to expect.

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Lonelymum · 21/07/2005 21:35

poor you. Hope it comes right for you soon.

Nbg · 21/07/2005 21:36

So sorry CP

I remember when I had mine it was around the time I would have had my AF so it was early. It was pretty normal loss but I did pass out a couple of times with the pain. I think now though that was because I was scared of what the pain was. Had I'd of known what was going on it might have been a bit different.

You might not go through this though. I have heard so many different stories of mc.

jamiesam · 21/07/2005 21:37

Sorry to hear this Charlee. I had a missed miscarriage with my first pg. By the time I had the scan at 8 weeks, it had stopped growing by up to two weeks. I chose to let nature take it's course and went back into hospital several days later as it was like a very painful period and I needed more than just nurofen. The good news was that the drs said just to wait for a normal period and then I could start ttc again.

I've been lurking a bit on conception as I'm ttc but without success and waiting for next hosp. appt in September for beginning of investigation. Haven't been able to bring myself to get involved in conception as I feel so sad at everybody else's little blue lines. Feel so guilty now. I'm so sorry if you've lost your baby.

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charleepeters · 21/07/2005 21:42

Jamiesam - dont feel guilty silly! im ok, it was so early i didnt have time to bond or make plans for my baby, i have lupus so i have a very high risk of m/c. Im pretty deffo i hvae lost it as i have stopped having all the symptoms i was having and i have had 3 negatives. The dr said the blood test is just routine but shes pretty sure that what has happened. what ever the result i will have a scan then i have the option to have a d&c, go to the abortion clinic to have the pill for early terminations or to let things happen naturally - i will go for the natural route.

By the way join the April babies thread were all real friendly and ttc mad!

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Nemo1977 · 21/07/2005 21:47

hi hun
i had missed mc in dec and unfortunatly the baby never moved itself so i got to 15wks but baby had died at 9wks. I ended up having to have d+c to get 'product' removed as the hospital pharsed it. If it is an early missed mc then you may be offered a tablet rather than the d+c. Take care

ebbie22 · 21/07/2005 21:48

Thinking of you hun xxx

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charleepeters · 21/07/2005 21:48

thanks guys - just hoping nature will take its course so i can get on with things.

sorry to drag up horrible old memorys for you all - thanks again

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jamiesam · 21/07/2005 21:50

Hey, you're not supposed to be making me feel better! Thanks though.

I felt really cross with my body for a. losing the baby and b. not even telling me about it. Didn't help that it was about 7 weeks before my wedding day. Happily I was pg again two months after wedding and he's nearly 4 now.

Will look out for the april baby thread.

Posey · 21/07/2005 21:59

So sorry to hear that.
Mine was discovered at a 12 week scan, but had probably stopped growing at 8 or 9 weeks. For that reason, as I hadn't naturally misscarried in that time I opted to go in the next day for a d&c. Quite surreal going home on the bus knowing I was no longer pregnant (Didn't want to get a taxi in case I had a chatty driver.) The ride and walk home helped me get my head together before chatting to my mum on the phone.
Wishing you all the best.

Diddle · 22/07/2005 11:00

Oh CP - so sorry, have seen you on the ttc thread a while ago, apparently it is quite common and it is only by chance that you tested and got a BFP. I would imagine that your af will be the same as normal, maybe a little heavier.

Really sorry you're going through this again, and although you didn't have time to bond, it is still heartbreaking to think about i.

Take care

flumpwantingabump · 29/05/2007 19:11

Hi All... Wishing you all happy pregnancies and so sorry for those of you who like me are trying to come to terms with a loss. I'm new to the site and kind of looking for a bit of support. I'm currently "officially" 14 weeks pregnant today but at my 11 week scan found out that my baby sadly hadn't made it. I have been waiting for the m/c to happen naturally and although I've had bleeding and severe pain in the last week the bleeding hasn't been significant. Another scan today confirmed I have to have an ERPC tomorrow or thursday (depending on bed availability) to end the process. I still feel pregnant and feel emotionally drained from the waiting. I have Mixed Connective Tissue Disease which could have contributed to the m/c. I feel so worried about TTC again as it could happen lots my friend has lost 4 babas and is still trying. I want to be a mum so much but feel like I'll never get there. Does anyone else feel like this or am I being overly paranoid. It feels like I'm living in some weird bubble at the moment.

Sorry for going on.... xx

poppy34 · 29/05/2007 21:32

flump -sorry to hear about your m/c . I totally sympathise as waiting for nature to take its course adds to the horror as the waiting seems to add to stress of everythign. I hope that everything goes well with ercp .

re ttc to conceive an losing hope there are a few on here who have had their problems (I've had 2 m/c and lost a baby due to abnormalities) so do know something of what you feel. so you're not alone in wondering if it will ever happend

hang in there - there are loads on here who have gone through a lot and had a child and the advice seems to be to keep hoping.

love and hugs and hope all goes well for the ercp xx

bearsmom · 30/05/2007 20:12

Hi Flump, I am so sorry to hear you've had a missed mc. It is such a cruel thing for our bodies to do to us but you mustn't give up hope. I've had one mc (at 5 weeks) and 2 missed mcs (both discovered around 9/10 weeks and baby had died at 7 wks), one last July and one happening now, but I was lucky enough to have ds between my first and second mcs and I'm hopeful I'll be able to have another child even though I'm getting on a bit. I started a thread about a week ago about having a successful pg after two mmcs but don't know how to link to it. It's in the conception topic and lots of lovely people posted with fantastic stories of hope after mc. There are lots of people in the same position so you're not alone. I feel like I'm on a real rollercoaster - one minute I feel okay and the next so despondent I can hardly move. But based on my experience of my mmc last year, it does get easier and you will manage to have hope again and the emotional energy to ttc again.

Have the docs suggested you have any further tests or treatment to help you maintain the next pg? Several people suggested tests to me (they're on my thread) and I'm going to ask my gp about them. I'm also going to try acupuncture. Poppy has an alternative treatments after mc thread and I'd posted about acupuncture there after she asked about it, then I was lying awake last night thinking and realised that I was having acupuncture when I conceived ds and continued having it until I was about 10 weeks pg (I only stopped because my acupuncturist went on maternity leave and I didn't really hit it off with her replacement). So now I'm thinking that perhaps it helped me maintain that pg. Who knows.

Anyway, lots of luck with ttc again and I hope the erpc went/goes okay and that you can now look to the future. There really is hope and, as lots of people have said to me, you must never give up.

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