why do I want another baby? someone talk some sense into me please!

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i already have 3 lovely children, so why am i desperate for another baby? it's not practical at all, our house isnt really big enough, we cant really afford it, and it is just a bad idea in every way really, but i cant shake the feeling that our family isn't complete.

help!

Because you are a woman! We are governed by our hormones, and it doesn't matter what is right, or what we can afford, it's all about what we are biologically designed for! I am so terribly broody at the moment for no 3, and my partner (who is a stubborn git) isn't having it! I can see his point, but that doesn't help a bit!

wantwantwant. i thought my dh would be the same about no.4, but he said the other day he would like another one...........he was meant to talk sense into me!! 3 is lovely by the way!

I know just what you mean. I work ridiculous hours, my DH is 53, we have 2 gorgeous pre - schoolers and only have 4 bedrooms and a small garden but I just CANNOT shake that longing for a third baby...

Me too! Had two lovely DC, but I just WANT another! Always have done. I come from a family of 5 siblings and loved it. Took me a year to convince my DH, who has always said two is perfect, that we could try for no. 3

do you want someone to try putting you off?

here goes (i'm gonna be brutal)

children suck the life from you. literally. you are decreasing your life expectancy with each one you have. (think increased weight, extra work for your heart etc)

they drain your bank account without even caring

they ruin your house (probably your biggest financial investment).

they damage your sex life

they change, irrevocably, your relationship with your dp

they are loud, messy, ungrateful and selfish

they just get worse as they get older

there is no guarantee that they will love you back, or even like you much

there is NO logical, good reason for having a child. the only reason to have one is a hormonally driven requirement for the species to continue - to give in to it is just to allow your 'animal' side to take over, rather than your civilised human self.

you will grow out of this phase when you get to the menopause

have i done my job?

(would love another, but can't, so i tell myself this as cold comfort)

hehehe - greedy - I knew you felt the same as me!!!!!! But you really have to decide whether you want to put pressure on yourself, for the upside of another adorable child???? You know what my answer is, and what I would say, but only you can decide if it is worth the stress for you. You know that I still feel that our family is not complete, but if you go look at the larger families threads some people never feel their family size is complete. My sister got her dh to get the snip as she knew she would never know when enough was enough (she stopped at 3). Me, I feel that 4 is my number, (but maybe is will have to be 3). So will you feel your family is definitely complete at 4, or will you go on wanting more. What is your number?!

rainbow - i really feel like 4 would definately be it for us. i kind of KNOW i wouldn't want anymore after that. 4 is so unpractical for us though....

I have three, but am unsure about four, well i'd love another but don't know if it'll be too much IYKWIM.

I've spent ages convincing myself that 3 is fine as DH didn't seem keen, know though he's done a complete u turn and i'm the one dithering!

I know how you feel!!! I was sure after two I was done!!! so much so I had a tummy tuck!.
Now I am in another relationship which is wonderful may I add! I really want a baby with him!!! my two are 5 and 6, and I can't seem to think of anything else...So I know exactly how you feel.
A close friend has a 8 year old and 2 year old twins, and says it's great and is loving it!!! Oh what to do???