I'm going slightly mad......

[amber1979]

Am not sure if I need advice or a kick up the behind.

DP and me were TTC for about six months last year. Nothing came of it and we stopped at Christmas. We stopped as I got made redundant and he was signed off work with depression.

All very sensible and level headed...so far...

I have since been put on a drug which cannot be taken during pregancy. DP has started asking me when I will finish the course and in his words "can come back off the pill again" He was as broody as me - he's got ideas for names picked out and books he wants to read to them...

I'm tempted. Seriously. (I thought the ladies on this board would understand this better than most).

However, we're still poor and he's still mad (his word, so ok lol).

Urgh, need chocolatte.

Hi if you really need the drug for your health then i'd put it off but as far as the financial worry goes, i dont think theres ever a "good" time to have a baby when it comes to money. If you want something that bad, you should go for it, its gonna be the best thing thats going to happen for you, why let money stop you, theres help and support and people manage!
You'll be pregnant for 9months maybe once you fall your DP will get back on his feet, and back to work, maybe it'll help.
I'll think you'lll find alot of people dont feel as though they are financially ready but they have a baby anyway and everything is fine and alot easier than they first thought.
i hope my advice has helped.

AAhh! we're poor and mad toooo! it's so nice to hear that there is someone else out there like me.

My DH is depressed and not working due to disability and not got many benefits coming through due to the knobby system where we live, and i only work p/t, again, the knobby system.

Everyday i think about how this really isn't the right time but we so want to do it anyway. Every month im sad when AF arrives and then i think oh well the more time that passes the closer we are to getting our life sorted out.

Then i feel like it'll all work out in the end anyway. Life's too short.

Last year when a doctor mistakenly! told me i was pg, all our family was so happy and supportive, nobody even thought about our situation, they kind of had a 'nah you'll be alright' sort of attitude.

And it's not like you order it and it'll arrive tomorrow in the post (i wish!) 9 months is plenty of time to get sorted and make changes in preparation.

My sister who had an unplanned pregnancy was given a total of 47 baby grows!

Not sure I want to rely on my other half getting back on his feet, but I get where you're coming from Tiggz. The idea of being a Dad is one of the few things that brings a smile to his face these days.

LaRagazza It does sound like we are in remarkably similar situation! I'm very jealous of you being in Italy though - I worked over there briefly years ago, great country.

I suppose it comes down to priorities. I mean if I gave birth tommorow the child would be loved by both parents and my extended family (spoilt to bits actually) and most defintely adequately housed and fed. Afterall, does it really matter if their clothes come from Boden or Asda?

Exactly, it makes no differnece if something has a brand name on it or not, clothes are clothes...they do the job, plus asda do some really nice clothes!!!
I hope you come to a decision thats going to make both you and your partner very happy!