nearly almost ttc no3 in early 40s

[laurasmiles]

Hi everyone - I have two children (3yrs and 5yrs) and having thought I was done and dusted, I find myself consumed once more with the idea of having a third child. Anyone else in this position? I mean life is stable and under control - am I crazy??

Not sure if it's my hormones telling me I'm about to cross over into the 'no chance' territory.....or if it's the fact that my youngest is going to school in September or what, but dp and I are talking hard about it.

I haven't mentioned it to anyone else because I know the reactions from family and friends may not be so encouraging and I haven't got it straight in my own mind entirely yet. And it's the issue of my age and the risks involved blah blah blah. Also, currently I have this idea of trying naturally and then calling it quits if nothing comes of it but I'm not totally niaive and realise I may get hooked on the idea and want to go down further roads - which seems a bit selfish given that I already have two. (not that I am judging anyone else - it's just how I feel for my own situation)

It's so hard to write this without thinking that I might offend someone as we all have very individual choices to make. But I was just wondering if anyone out there is in a similar position and can relate?

I am overwieght and need to get a bit stronger physically so I'm trying to be sensible and address that first but I know that time is not on my side. Anyone who wants to tell it like it is - please do. Am I totally unrealistic to just crack on with the natural route and see what happens?

I know 3 people off the top of my head who had a child (in last 8 years) at age 43 yrs. All naturally conceived, no chromosone defects.
There's a website for older moms, mothers35plus.

Similar-ish! I'm soon-to-be 40, and DH and I will be ttc #3 (DD1 is nearly 5 and DD2 is 15 months) this year. If it helps at all, my Mum had me at 42 and my aunt had her youngest at 42 as well.

On the craziness front, DH and I have always wanted three, but I do find myself fretting about what other people will think (even though it's none of their business really!)

Just sneaking over here from the "Step away from the 1st response" thread I've been reading. I'm 40 and may be pg with dc3 trying to wait until next week to take pg test. DH and I recently decided 2dc were enough, but made a mistake last week. Excited at the possibility, but a bit worried about my age (have big babies which cause me alot of trouble in labour and after). Have 2ds(age 6 and 2.10). I think it would be lovely to have no.3. I just have this feeling that we will be having another one like it or not... If you think you want another, go for it! Who cares what anyone else thinks none of their concern.

Oooh Kathsunn - how exciting!!! It sounds lovely and perhaps falling pg without too much consideration is sometimes a good policy if you know what I mean! Too much angst around the decision is never helpful when your head is just trying to rule your heart.

Verso - It does help hearing good news stories for sure. And to hear other people going for it. I agree with you that really it's up to us to decde and then stick by our decisions. If you feel ready you are ready!!

Escondida thanks for the link and for the hopeful stories. You've got to start out at least focussing o the positive!

Found myself coveting people's buggies today and wanting to rush up to every family of three I see to ask 'what's it like??' ndering