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When to decide on IVF

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pumpkinjoy · 03/03/2010 14:53

Hello-I have just had my first consultation at a fertility clinic. I had to go privately in the end as I was going to wait so long and I initially went to GP in may last year! We have been TTC for 2years 1` month now. Tests have shown there are no apparent problems on either side so we have been branded with the lovely phrase "unexplained infertilty".
I was given 3 options yesterday. Parental induction of ovulation with fertilty drugs, clomid plus artificial insemination with my husband's sperm, and IVF. The best success rates are with IVF with the other options apparently only having 10-15% success. Our view is that we are better off going straight for IVF (would have to be private as year long NHS waiting list)due to better success (and also the financial cost may be lower in the long-run) I would be greatful to anyone who could advise me or has been through similar experiences. I am getting increasingly desperate and just want something to work.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 18/03/2010 09:16

daisydot,

I would have to concur with LondonLottie and would just state that in my view your treatment to date has been absolutely bloody dire and I have certainly read some awful stories. Yours is one of the worst I have come across. Talk about being fobbed off.

It is vitally important that the three of you can work as a team. I would certainly suggest you give up on this previous unit and take yourselves elsewhere.

Not testing your man to date - why on earth have they not done this?. Again appalling.

BTW if you have PCOS and associated insulin resistance (were you given Metformin?) as well there is no way they should have given you 12 months supply of clomid without monitoring of any sort. You have no way of knowing whether its working or not if no monitoring is done and it may well not be working. Apart from anything else some PCOSers who take clomid can become resistant to it so no amount of clomid would work (clomid can raise levels of LH which many PCOSers have an excess of to start with). It should be always given with a degree of caution to PCOSers as a whole.

The fibroid too warrants further treatment.

IVF for PCOSers too should only be tried when all other avenues of treatment have been exhausted. Due to the possible risks of ovarian overstimulation it should be considered very carefully.

daisydotandgertie · 18/03/2010 20:47

It's surprisingly disturbing to read that both of you feel strongly that my treatment so far has been awful. It sort of validates how I'm feeling which makes it a bit more worrying.

I hope I haven't come to my conclusion too late to do something about it.

London - I've been following your fabulous progress from afar; although your girls must be such hard work, you must be very, very pleased you have them (they're gorgeous . Your bed rest did sound as dull as ditchwater though .

Thank you for linking to that site - I hadn't found it before and am trawling through it to dig out as much information as possible. There's a lot there.

Attila - I don't know why they haven't tested my DH. We've both asked the question, and each time they've said that because we've had 3 chem pgs in the last 18 months, it's not necessary. We will ensure it's done before we see Mr Dooley.

I haven't been given Metformin, only Clomid. And the consultant said when she gave it to me that she thought it might not work because of my BMI but that in view of my age, I might as well give it a try. The Clomid is on a repeat prescription for 12 months and I have to go back to the consult 6 months into treatment.

It does deeply worry me that I have no idea what's going on inside me. I do know it bloody hurts though. And the fibroid is painful and ensures I have v heavy periods - I am going through 2 whopper pads and the most absorbent tampons I can find in an hour. Every month. It's very debilitating.

She did say that removing the fibroid would be dangerous - it may result in an emergency hysterectomy because of it's position. She also said it would leave massive scarring which would be likely to affect my fertility. It seemed like a no win situation to be honest.

It's astonishing how much clarity I am gaining from writing all this down. It is very quickly focusing my mind

Peelay · 19/03/2010 06:01

Hello all,
We have been ttc for a year now and seeing a specialist for 6 months. I just turned 39 and Dh is 38. After taking the hormones for a few cycles, we tried IUI once and failed so decided to go ahead with IVF. I started taking the pill and am waiting for day 2/3 of my cycle to go back to our doc and get going.

I have to agree with Nbelle (congrats to you!) that once we made the decision we started to relax and I am actually looking forward to the whole process and having some degree of control. I may be deluded, I may rue these words, but I'm trying to hang on to this delicious feeling of positivity for a while!

londonlottie · 19/03/2010 09:08

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daisydotandgertie · 19/03/2010 09:20

Oh London. That's hard. Maybe they'll be extra angelic today and both sleep at the same time so you can crawl back to bed for a while.

I have everything crossed for you!

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