Is anyone stopping ttc to avoid having a Christmas baby?

[PhoebeLaura]

I'm not ttc yet but about to start and have realised that if we conceive on first cycle (unlikely I know - the last one took 8 months) the baby will be due at Christmas. I'm not sure how I feel about this and wondered if anyone is stopping ttc for that reason or has a Christmas birthday and wishes they didn't?

BTW, I'm sure there are many ladies on this board who would love to get a +ve at any time of the year and I don't mean in any way to trivialise or offend.

In theory I will take a break after this month if I don't get pregnant......But.....I wouldn't put money on me keeping to that plan lol
I would prefer to miss December and January really because nobody has any money (read, I don't have any money) at time of year lol.

No way! It might take ages.

Once I thought I would mind, but now, nope, bring it on! Sorry kiddo, so long as you have a birthday, I don't care when it is!

Does anybody have a leap year birthday - Feb 29? Actually I think that would be pretty cool.

Are you crazy? I really wouldn't halt TTC because of the Christmas-baby, August-baby type nonsense. There is always a reason not to have a child. But if you really want one, just do it!

p.s. Nov/Dec babies are great, imo. It's cold outside, it's toasty inside, everyone is getting into the cosy, homely, visiting with pressies vibe anyway ...it is a great excuse to sit about eating and being spoiled for weeks on end

DD2 is a christmas eve baby,she gets a whole month of partys,with her friends on the 13th(roughly) at school, her birthday party just before school hols start,another on xmas eve with us and then more pressies on xmas day.
Im trying for another now and im not fussed if it pops out at xmas time.

Thanks for the replies - both me and DH think it's a daft reason to not try (and I love having a winter birthday for the reasons Tweedy gives) it's just a lot of others I know are stopping to avoid Christmas birth and I thought maybe I was missing something.

Good to hear you all think it's madness to not try for this reason.

We had our last baby at the begining of December thankfully we had a couple of weeks before christmas. Ds did arrieve on his due date but though we won't prevent any pregnancy I am not going for gusto either as November has 2 birthdays in it. If we aren't careful there would be 4 and xmas to. I am a little concerned but if thats the month we concieve I know we would be ok with it though the grandparents complain with the mass present buying exercise all at the end of the year, I guess we were more in the mood for ttc around Feb and March Lol . Actualy there are worse times in the year to be born as we have a may and an August one and they suffered later with being the youngest in the year and had less time in nursery before rushing into year 1. Iam now thinking apart from the inconvienience of the birthday and christmas thing that they are at least going to be older in the year.

I also love snuggling my newborns up in their blankets in a nice pram which is more of a nessecity in the winter to shield them from the elements. Well maybe thats it more me maybe we will keep ttc these next few months.

There is an easy straightforward solution you know. Become a Jehovah's Witness.

Good plan Ariesgirl, I hadn't thought of that.

Going against the grain, I would try to avoid Christmas but even if you do that the baby could arrive a month early. Good luck what ever you do.

I have another reason not to try at that time aswell though (upcoming karate black belt grading) so the two things combined make a more compelling reason. Probably wouldn't stop trying otherwise.

still trying this month though so I may not get to do the grading anyway, and it would be a late november due date so not that far from xmas either
Like I said, I may well change my plans if AF turns up this month lol.

Have to chime in here as Christmas baby myself, and agree with Totallyfloaty- having a birthday at this time of year is like having a month of parties! It's all about how you pitch it, my parents always tried to ensure that the two things were celebrated as separately as possible. When I was a kid, it just made the holiday season even more festive; and as an adult, it's a great excuse to ensure that you get together with all of your family and friends at such a busy, frenetic time of year!

The only downside I can think of is my delight at all things Christmassy.. Just the idea of hearing Wizzard on the radio makes me all tingly..!!

My birthday is the week before Christmas and the day before my Mums, I also got married just after Christmas and although sometimes it can be difficult arranging stuff I wouldn't swap it and will definately carry on ttc #3, as I have waited nearly five years for dh to agree to having a third.
My only slight reservation would be if the baby was actually born on Christmas day because I would want to be around for my other dc but the chances must be slim so not enough to put me off.

Ds was born at Xmas and it was lovely. He was born on 23/12 and we brought him home Xmas day and it was just amazing. He is 3 now and the Xmas holidays are lovely because we have a birthday party too. Wouldnt have it any other way.

I used to think exactly the same as you when I started ttc last November. I fell pregnanct straight away but saidly miscarried a month ago and all I would say now is don't plan around dates, just start ttc when it's the right time for you. I would be delighted now with a Christmas or New Year baby - and even triplets!

Oh thoroughlymodernmilly, that's not a downside! Besides I'm exactly the same and I've got a November birthday

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage Boos75. Fingers crossed for some happy news for you very soon.

You know the more I think about it the more I can see the positives of having a Christmas baby or for that matter an anytimeoftheyearbaby. Hurray! On with the ttc....

Good luck with TTC. I'm desperate to conceive my first, so even though i always thought i'd be pro-avoiding having a Xmas baby, now i'd be ecstatic whatever the birthday. I just want it happen for me. My Sister in law has just told me she's expecting her first. That rocked my world. Really hard to find head space to think about anything eg work, friends etc.

I've been trying 5 years though i'm trying not to fixate on the dates and cycle days as it makes me more stressed.

I'm trying to avoid Sept-Dec as baby will have to deal with 2 education systems, one which runs Sept-August and the other Jan-Dec and could end up repeating or skipping a year, which would make things complicated, but if it happens it happens.

I don't think you should give up TTC if the EDD would be December. What if the EDD is Jan and the baby comes 4 weeks early (mine did!). If I was TTC, I would just be happy with getting pg, reagardless of dates.

One of my friends has his birthday on New Year's Eve and it's lovely because he always has a great party and everyone is prepared to celebrate. Also if baby comes slightly late you can get presents in the January sales.

Personally I would really like a November/December/January baby! Maybe it's because me, DH, my parents, and his parents all have November/December birthdays so it's always seemed a bit weird to me for people to have birthdays in midsummer.

When I decided to ttc DS (5 years ago I might add!) we never even thought about when his EDD might be...it ended up being the 28th March but he decided to arrive 4 weeks early on my birthday so I seriously wouldn't have planned that lol!! Its lovely that we share something so special and now he's older he gets how unusual it is for mummy to have the same birthday as him but I wouldn't have planned to spend my entire birthday in labour.

We are now ttc no 2 (and yes its taken that long to convince DH lol!) and everyone keeps saying oh I wouldn't try now cause you are going to end up with a baby between christmas and your/DS's birthday...but to be honest I don't care when it arrives. I actually think it'd be quite cool to have another one on my birthday as well...don't think DH would agree though!