how to support friend who is ttc while i am 8 months pregnant?

[humptynumpty]

one of my best friends is desparate for a baby, she has been ttc for about 6 months. I have tried to reassure her that it is very common for ttc to take a while etc... and that it can also take time for your cycle to get back to normal after long time on the pill etc...
But it's hard. I am lucky, I fell pregnant 3 times really quickly and when she asks what happened to me I don't want to lie, but it sounds so hollow when it was so easy for me and so hard for her... especially when i am sitting there 8 months pregnant!
Any advice?

I would say don't dwell on it, don't pester her for news of how it is going and if she wants to talk let her and just try to listen. Also don't offer advice if you can avoid it, because it may come over not the way you mean it to someone who is feeling pretty low about not conceiving.

And sorry I don't mean 'pester' her in a mean way as if you're doing that I just don't know what other word to use

Tell her to get on MNet, then she'll realise there's heaps of folk out there taking a while to conceive, and get lots of support!

It took me over 6 months to conceive and whilst I wasn't unduly worried by that stage, you do start to think 'there's something awful wrong with me, it's never going to happen'. I found friends being pg encouraging rather than upsetting, though, yes, I imagine it's not easy to hear others conceived straight away without any wait.

Depending on her age average time to conceive is 6 -12 months so I'd just encourage her to relax, have lots of sex and think about other things. I eventually conceived the one month I was to busy at work to worry about getting pregnant!

thanks ladies, I have tried really hard not to go on about it, and only refer to it when she brings it up.
It's just hard because she loves kids and is great with them (works in a nursery) and she is so happy for me, but you can just see that twinge in her eyes saying "why isn't it me"

will tell her to get on mn straight away!!

from someone who is still ttc'ing after 2 years, i would say the hardest thing is to keep positive - anything you can say that is positive about her / how she's handling it / that she's doing all the right things / that she's so good with kids etc is the kind of thing that helps me from friends. x

thanks carebear, I have told her to come on here for a bit of moral support so hopefully you guys can help more than I can