TTC?! More like HopingTC cos there's not too much trying going on!!

[TeaFan]

A thread for all us lovely ladies that convince ourselves that we will seduce our DPs/DHs without revealing any of the intimate details about OV etc only to once a month scream '*For crying out loud, just shag me for fecks sake, I have EWCM don't you know!!!'

Of course i'm desperately hoping there are more of you out there Let's hope it really does 'only take one'

Ding ding. Have looked back over the last cycle. And apart from the first week after my period, we've only been having sex once a week. Pretty rubbish for ttc'ers. And I think we shagged once 5 days before ovulation. So there is Hope. But very little.

I am spurred on by mythical tales of sperm surviving for up to 7 days hanging around for that elusive egg to hatch.

Have told dh I am Not Happy. But he is really busy with his business, working till early hours of the morning most days. Doesn't help that we also co-sleep with DS - swi has to happen after ds has gone to bed but before we do.

Actually, it'd be a bloody miracle if I do get a bfp.

I started buttering up DP on CD5 in the hope that he can drag himself away from work at a decent hour, he's very about it

Of course finding out that saliva kills sperm has done nothing for my seduction technique

Last year i marked in my diary the actual possible days i.e not AF, ovulating, BDing, and DH actually (ahem) finishing the job and it worked out to be about once or twice a month, so im hoping too on them surviving 5 days!
TeaFan i know what you mean about spermacide saliva, i almost say 'no dont do that!' what a mood killer that would be!

Yup. I hear ya.

We are perhaps slightly differnt in having all good intentions from around day 8 (say every other day) then around day 11 I get really anxious if we're not actually having sex that we might miss a window, so by day 12 we're pretty much burnt out. Every. Single. Month.

Will I never learn? 9 cycles here post M/C and getting impatient...

Phew.
I'm kinda glad that I'm not the only one wondering if we should be making a bit more of an effort. I'm rather counting on the fact that I tend to get really randy around ovulation time to give me the motivation to pin my DP down at the apropriate time of the month. Otherwise here's hoping for the 5 day life span!

I am hoping there is point in trying to jump on hubby tonight ..I am on day 16 so not much hope I dont think, ..... He was away until days tweleve... then had a sickness bug until yesterday .....crap isnt it ?

Definitely worth it Duritzfan - go for it!

We manage to have it at the "right time" but the rest of the month we can't be bothered have no more energy. 10 months of trying and I am getting bored of it all....

And forgot to add the my so called fertile time usually coincides with DS teething and having disturbed sleep. So just lie back and think of George Clooney England.

Ok here's how I got my BFP after having cycles and cycles of almost shotgun conception attempts...

snog snog snog and have fun massages until day 12 absolutely no sex allowed.

Then when you have EWCM - don't have sex the day it starts -
Now I know that holding back in this way will kill you - no doubt you are swigging robitussin and compulsively checking your black knickers and counting off the seconds until your fertile period is over....
but you must wait until the EWCM is just over - this can be day 15 to about day 18 (depending on how long that cycle is) and then have sex, lots of it.

remember - no sex till after the EWCM is just gone - you may have delayed ovulation due to stress - and EWCM can last for a few days, sometimes a week (!) - you'll be burnt out by the time you actually ovulate.

Have fun as well - lots of snogging and massages - tis takes the pressure off performance and re connects you and your partner without the ttc agenda being in everyone's face so to speak.

This worked for me after years of TTCing.

Good luck to you girls!

OMG zazen are you sure? Not sure I've got the nerve for that but must be worth a try! Maybe next month though....

couldn't possible be that brave i'm afraid.

We start on last day of period and do it every other day until about day 16 or so. I have short 25/6 day cycles and ov about day 11 ish

It's worth it ladies, we know it makes sense.

Thanks zazen, you've given me hope, i always thought that might be the case, and this time used ov test and it said i was ov when the EWCM was almost gone, so that sounds right, thanks again

oh wow.so my day 16 shag might work ? lol.... will keep you posted ! Think we 'll have another try tonight too...
We ate ttc'ing again after an Oct mc.. so am permanantly petrified of everything pregnancy lol !

Just came back to this thread to vent if you don't mind ladies.

Yesterday a friend was asking how things were going, then said "Are you doing it every day then?". I said err no, it would have been a bit difficult to keep that up for the 9 cycles since my miscarriage, gets a bit stressful you know... She then shrugged as if she couldn't see why it shouldn't be that easy.

Well thanks, great advice from someone cradling their newborn and who got pregnant by accident. Doesn't help that I'm mid-cycle and have the usual stress about maybe not doing it enough.

As you were.

Cyan sorry to hear about your insensitive friend. My friend did it once in a month and got pregnant - so its obviously not about quantity.

Thanks lou - wishing us all some of that luck very soon!

Ok just do as I suggest for this month - be brave OK!

I took 36 cycles to concieve my DC (I say I as my DH wasn't counting as I was).

Try using an ovulation predictor stick, and get to know your cycle, you'll see that you ovulate after the majority of the EWCM has gone (it is still there - just in the neck of the cervix, where it's useful, not within the vagina, where it's more of a lube ).

Best of luck girls

Oh yes me too - completely pretending to DH with a cheery and dismissive wave and a 'I have no idea if I'm ovulating or not'.

This month we managed Days 7, 11, 14 and 16....

enough do you think?

Suffice to say I was stressing on day 13......

Right that's it. Game on tonight.