oh crapsticks, think I might be pg - please come and tell me it will be ok if I am...

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Did a clearblue pg test yesterday afternoon and there is the faintest of faintest vertical lines. Might it be an evaporation line? Does anyone have any experience of evaporation lines on pg tests?

DS is 8.5 months old - I stopped bf before Christmas and haven't had AF yet. Been feeling nauseous which is why I tested. I'm supposed to be going back to work soon. He doesn't sleep very much. I don't think I could cope with an 18 month age gap. We can't afford another baby. We live in a teeny tiny flat nowhere near any family.

Going to buy some more tests this afternoon and test again and tomorrow morning.

Please someone tell me it will be ok if I am as I can't quite see how at the moment.

Oh god, just realised I should probably not have posted this in conception. I'm really really sorry if I upset anyone who is TTC I really don't mean to

anyone??

I would think if there is a +ve line, then you are pregnant.

Dont worry - be happy, congratulations!!

Things will work out, and an 18 month age gap is fantastic, calm down, and test again in the morning x

Thanks Fartle - do you have an 18 month age gap?

I'm so worried about this - mainly about the age gap and work/money issues really.

Argh.

Don't panic.

If you have an 18m age gap, it will be tough at first, but not for too long. After a while, it will be fabulous and 2 kids so close in age will be great friends and entertain together. My 2yo is far easier to entertain when my 4yo is here.

You know how to do all the baby stuff, they can share stuff (like a changing mat, crap example, but ykwim).

My neighbour has boys in year 2 and year 3. They are such great friends and she has a lovely easy time with them. They are always together entertaining eachother.

Thanks messygarden.

Part of me is worried because I would feel so guilty and sad for DS if I had another baby so soon. He's only a baby himself and I don't understand how I would be able to give him the time and energy he needs and deserves if I had a newborn to look after.

He's asleep at the moment but I'm going to get more tests this afternoon. Still clinging on to the evaporation line theory.

I know it would all work out because it would have to but just arrrrrrrrrrgh

why don't you think of it as a positive for your DS - a sibling born when he is still a baby will grow up alongside him.

I have a little more between mine (24 months) but I would have chosen a smaller gap if I could have got pg quicker.

You won't be able to give your DS the time and attention he's used to once you have a newborn (this is the tough phase I am referring to), but your DS will have a new dimension to his life instead. Also, think from the point of view of 2nd and subsequent children - they never get any time alone with their mothers as by the time they are born, there are already siblings.

Honestly, if you are pg and you have an 18 mth gap, you'll be congratulating yourself in a few years

But poor old DS1 won't know any different will he? He won't feel hard done at all (well, beyond normal sibling rivalry), don't worry about that. Imagine if you waited 3 years before TTC, he'd be well used to it being just him, and a new baby would be a real shock to the system. There are pros and cons to every age gap, please don't worry about that.

Thanks messygarden

Right. Going to stop panicking, stop speculating, and find out for sure what's going on. Will go to the chemist as soon as DS wakes up.

Will post with test results x

Songbird x-posts, I guess you're right. He's just my pfb and I love him so much. I just can't imagine loving any other baby as much but I guess all mums feel like that until number 2 arrives? Oh crap feeling all teary and emotional now, thank god I namechanged for this!

You will be fine, as will the age gap. There is only 14 months between DS1 and 2. It was tough at first (couple of weeks I mean) but am so pleased we had them close together. Same circ as you re finishing BF'ing and then no AF.
I am now 17 weeks with DC 3, bigger gap this time though will be 27 months between this one and DS2.

Good luck!

i have an 18 month gap and it's absoulutely brilliant, the pregnancy i'll admit was a bit tough as dd only learned to walk at close to 15 months so i spent most of the pregnancy carrying her but once ds1 was born it was brilliant... they've been best frineds since the moment he was born

you'll love a new baby just as much as your ds and on top of that huge love for each of them as individuals you'll have a whole new surge of love for both children combined... how they behave towards each other and that extraordinary sibling bond.

No no nooooooo - don't say congratulations it might make it true!!!

Wow, 14 month age gap and you survived to tell the tale, that gives me hope

It really is the faintest of faint lines. Barely there at all. I'm sure I'll be posting back later saying sorry for the false alarm, thanks for the support etc etc

btw... i got preg with ds1 with no af while bf-ing too, it's ridiculously common

SnowTulips xposts - you made me cry again with your lovely post I seriously need to get a grip here...

I know what you mean. My brother has two boys, only 11 months between them - ouch! I always thought they'd both suffer, but they've been absolutely fine, and are best buddies.

I have 19 months between my eldest 2 - now 5 and 3.7 - would not change it for the world - the pregnancy was much harder (carrying ds1 who didn't walk till 17 months etc) than looking after a toddler and a newborn - ds2 was so amazed just sitting in a bouncy chair watching ds1 potter about and from the moment he could move they have been best friends and are curently inseperable. It's fab!

You should really wait until the morning to test again. Your urine will be much weaker in the afternoon and you might get a false negative which will get your hopes up And maybe get a Clearblue Digital which will tell you in text if you are pg or not - that way you won't be worrying about evaporation lines?
Thats all the advice I have, sorry. Good luck!

There's a 14 month age gap between me and my brother (he's older) and it was lovely growing up having a sib so close in age - it was when my little brother arrived 3.5 years later the problems started , only joking....

Keep us updated won't you.

And agree with the other posters, I deffo found the pregnancy harder than when DS2 actually arrived.
And my two are the best of buddies too, it's so lovely to see.
Yes I have survived to tale the tale and as I said can't have been that bas as we have DC3 on the way, DS2 is currently 21 mths.

weeelllll?????

We need to know!!!!

(I think you are) and I think you will be really happy, and dont worry about not giving DS1 time to be a baby, you'll just have 2 babies, just like twins, well kinda... but you see my point

Ok so I've got the tests but I'm not going to do them until the morning - as pixie says I don't want to get a false negative. I've got a first response AND a clearblue digital so should know in the morning either way.

Thank you so much for all your lovely posts, I'm feeling much calmer now. On reflection I honestly don't think I am pregnant. The line is really barely visible. But if I am I know it will all be ok.

Thanks again and will post in morning either way x

Hope you get the result you want, namechange.

Oohh sorry to crash your post, but I'm dying to know the results of the tests!

I hope it goes whichever way you want, whatever the result, you'll be fine!

Morning ladies. I've done the first response test and it is an unequivocal not pregnant.

My sensible head is relieved for all the reasons listed in my first post, but there is a not as small as I would have liked part of me that was disappointed when the second line didn't show up. I suppose I spent yesterday getting my head slightly round the thought of being pg and now that I know I'm definitely not I need to remember that that is what I'd hoped for initially.

One thing's for sure, I'm never using bloody clearblue again!

Thank you for all the support x