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What shall I do with my frozen embryos?

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Cobblers · 20/01/2010 11:01

To cut a long story short, I have a ds that was conceived through ivf. The unused embryos were frozen for a year in case the ivf didn't work. I've just received a letter asking what we want to do with them. I'm not sure I want another child but can't bare the thought of destroying them as I have a scan of ds when he was just 4 cells. I can't donate them as I'm too old.
I never thought I'd feel so emotional about it.
Your thoughts would be gratefully received.

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Onlyaphase · 20/01/2010 11:06

Oh, what a minefield for you! Am so sorry you have to make a decision on this.

I've never been lucky enough to have any embryos to freeze, so can't advise you from personal experience. Did the letter give you any options? I would assume that you would either be able to donate for research purposes or just let them defrost and die.

Do you think getting more information would help? Could you speak to the embryologists and find out the chances of any/none of the embryos actually making it through the defrosting process?

Again, so sorry, this is a dreadful decision to have to make

Onlyaphase · 20/01/2010 13:20

Have just re-read your post, and seen you aren't sure about having another child. In that case maybe it would be best to keep the embryos frozen until you are sure about this?

hhunter · 20/01/2010 17:57

I agree if you are not sure if you want to use them yet and they have only been frozen for a year, you can legally extend the storage period so you do not have to rush into a decision. It is very early (presumably your DS is only 3 months old) to decide definitely you don't want another baby. Remember these frozen embryos don't 'age' as you do so the risks of using them in 5 years are the same as now.

If the clinic don't hear from you they will allow the embryos to perish so please contact them.

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Cobblers · 20/01/2010 19:55

Sorry for the late response.

I think we''re going to put off the decision for another year. It costs about £500 to store them but I can't help thinking I'm going to feel the same next year.

I'm afraid I'm just sticking my head in the sand.

DS is 7 months old BTW.

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