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who has told their friends and family that they are ttc

15 replies

Nanny01 · 19/01/2010 12:12

Hi
I was wondering if you ladies have told their friends/family about ttc. I didn't till I told one friend now wishing I hadn't especialy dh said not arr, he is so sensible. Must keep mouth shut.

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CallyGal · 19/01/2010 12:45

Haven't no. Get pressure enough from MIL without her knowing we're actually trying. She'd want an update everytime we tried!!!

MrsGazebo · 19/01/2010 13:00

The world and his mutt know we're TTC!

CallyGal lol about MIL. Mine is lovely and is not quite as nosey! That doesn't go for MrG's Fathers partner though!
I have friends who know my cycle better than me! We have been trying for a while and had several MC so it's hard for us to hide.

Each to their own I suppose, I like having the support.

Good luck to you both by the way!

tanmu82 · 19/01/2010 13:04

I have told a few close friends that we are hoping to ttc later this year and told my sister (who blabbed to my mum) that we would like another baby....wouldn't dream of telling family that we are actively going to try. DH is VERY private and wouldn't go for that idea at all. Our families would be ecstatic though, so I look forward to surprising them all with an announcement, if all goes to plan, just in time for Christmas

skidoodle · 19/01/2010 13:09

Other than in circumstances like MrsGazebo's where people just know anyway and you might like a bit of support, really people do not want to know how often you're shagging and whether you're using contraception.

tanmu82 · 19/01/2010 13:29

skidoodle, so true lol!

MrsGazebo · 19/01/2010 13:40

Ooops skidoodle you're quite right.
Didn't actually think of it like that.
I'm rather blase (sp?) about it as it's kind of out of our hands now.
Don't get me wrong , I don't post regular updates on facebook or anything. And not everybody knows (I think) lol

Hulababy · 19/01/2010 13:43

Most of our friends and family know. It has been over 5 years of TTC for #2 and has involved 2 ops, hormone treatment, Clomid, etc. After all that then obviously many many people know. I also comment on it when you get the inevitable "when you having another?" type questons.

I have to admit though that it hasn't made any difference in that friends and family don't go on about it or question us about it, It does howver mean that I have people to sound off to if going through a bad patch.

twowellies · 19/01/2010 15:17

We have just started TTC #3 and haven't told anyone. I think I am putting enough pressure on myself without friends and family looking at my stomach and wondering if I am pregnant yet. Although we did buy a 7 seater car last year so I guess it wouldn't be a surprise to them all! A friend of mine is publically TTC and I feel rather awkward at hearing about it. I couldn't look her husband in the eye yesterday! Each to their own I think is the answer to this one!

Lipstie · 19/01/2010 15:38

Quite a few of my family and friends know that we are ttc, as I like the support from my friends that have got children already. We got married in July and have been ttc since then (but have not given everyone all the details!) a close friend suggestd headstands to help things along a bit but another suggested MN so some have been more helpful than others! lol
I am going to become an aunt for the first time in April and talked to my SIL about this as we started the same time but she was far more lucky than us! I am so pleased for her and my brother though as it is the first child in the family

seablue · 20/01/2010 16:11

Lipstie it's tough though, isn't it, when people you know started trying the same time as you actually have their baby while you're still trying! We're on cycle 10, so that's just started happening. Quite weird, really, that people have moved so far on while we feel as if we're in stasis...

ceebs05 · 20/01/2010 17:44

Callygal - sounds like I feel the exact same way as you re: the MIL!!! She comments so often about her lack of grandchildren I dread to think of the conversations we would end up forced into if she knew we were TTC!

tiredfeet · 21/01/2010 23:39

seablue & lipstie, this happened to me, SIL and I started trying at about same time (she told me it took 2 months to get pregnant), its now coming up to my neice's first birthday. I am genuinely delighted for them but the first birthday will also be hard for me, a reminder of how much time has gone by .

we haven;t told anyone we're ttc, I'm mainly glad as I'm a very private person, but there are moments when people say things and don;t realise how much they are hurting me and then I wonder whether I shouldn't start sharing...

LilRedWG · 22/01/2010 08:42

A couple of friends know, but no family and no friends who might bump into family. SIL made the mistake of telling people and lived to regret it.

stuffedmk · 22/01/2010 11:04

I have told a couple of friends but my family doesn't know yet. I suspect they will know soon though as DH in his wisdom decided to tell DS and he is bound to say something.
We were with DH's family boxing day and his brother made the usual "when you having the next one" joke and DH told him we were "working on it" but no more has been said. I suspect his whole family will have heard by now but we don't chat that much anyway.

nickytwotimes · 22/01/2010 11:09

I am pg atm.

No WAY would I ever tell people I was ttc. Of course I might say 'yeah, another would be nice' but why tell others youa nd your oh are at it like rabbits?!

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