TTC and seem to be pretty clueless :p

[anythingwithagiraffeonit]

Hi everyone!

Started TTC last month, devastatingly to me, am not pregnant yet :p

Since joining this site I have been reading about charting and temperature and how actually very few peoples cycles are 28 days...

Can anyone give me a little bit of info about any of this? I so desperately want to be pregnant and naively thought that just giving it a go would be enough.... duh :p

It seems like everyone I know is pregnant and i'm being driven insane with jealousy!!

Any help would be much appreciated x

Hello there!

I was totally bleeding ignorant (pun mostly intended, sorry) until I went on mymonthlycycles.com. (I think there's something similar on here).

You just chart when your period starts and it builds up a really good picture of your average cycle length, and consequently when you are probably ovulating. You then can start comparing your physical symptoms (ie getting majorly horny and very mucousy round the time your calendar says you should be ovulating - sorry, too much information no doubt! - is really amazing, as you realise your body does (ideally) have a system after all.

You can then see when you're most fertile and get down on it at the appropriate juncture! You can also see exactly when your period should be starting, and know whether to do a test etc.

Hope this helps. I must add I am trying to conceive my first, and this is the first cycle of my trying, so I'm no expert - mymonthlycyles just helped me feel my way!

GOOD LUCK!

Oh, good I'm not the only one who is in awe of all the 'science' involved with TTC.

I was recently advised (on MN) to get ovulation testing (wee) kits on ebay rather than fork out £20 a pop from Boots.

They are about £5 on ebay and you basically wee on one a day until you get a 'positive' result then ttc on that specific day & hopefully you may get pg then. Two women I know have done this and gotten pregnant. One was 38 and the other 39.
I am aware obviously other factors may be an issue, but its a start. I think there is another website - Fertility Friend or something like that, which was recommended to me in explaining and helping to chart cycles etc.

Goodluck x

Hi anythingwithagiraffeonit

We've just been TTC for 3 months and was feeling exactly the same the first 2 dissapointments. Don't worry, I think most of us spent so long preventing pregnancy and safe sex has been drummed into us that now we think just getting rid of protection will get us a BFP

Come join the firsttimefrolickers thread, everyone there is really friendly and share your frustrations with us! If you're anything like me I don't like not being in control of my life and unfortunately this is one thing I have to learn that I just can't control

I've just started charting my BBT and using OPKs this month so hoping to understand my cycle a bit more!

#Big hugs# it's so frustrating isn't it?!

mumnerves I know what you mean about having spent so many year avoiding pregnancy that you think it'll happen immediately...this is my first cycle of trying and although I am usually quite level headed and sane (no, really!) I OBVIOUSLY going to conceive IMMEDIATELY and have started calculating how pregnant I will look at various social events in the late spring.

I think I need to steel myself slightly! anythingwithagiraffeonit - you're not alone!

Eadwacer I know exactly what you're going through, the first 2 months I had it in my head when I was going to tell my parents, if I was pregnant, what I should cut out etc etc and it was no wonder I was driving myself mad! I've started to stop doing it to myself as I was getting very very down about it. We're also going to BD every other day now instead to cut down on the pressure and just start thinking about the whens and ifs when I actually do get a BFP

Oh, and yes, everyone else seems to be getting pregnant around me too except for me!

Oh mumnerves I'm glad it's not just me! I've a wedding in late May and, I swear to God, I've been thinking about making a dress and what style would best suit a 4 month bump. It's crazy! And all the day-dreams about telling people, and how, and when. One of the things I secretly slightly resent about this business is that it does see to reduce us all to stereotyped victims to our hormones. . .

Good luck though pal, 3 months is nothing (although you DO know I'd be saying the same!) in the overall picture...

I'm just worried about getting my DH to give me a solid seeing too on a highly frequent basis. We've been together 14 years, and have a contentedly relaxed approach to all that, and his job (12 hour shifts in the emergency services!) is not exactly conducive to permanently swinging from the chandeliers....

Eadwacer
ROFL! I have a wedding in May too and had exactly the same thoughts! Now it's I hope it's over the 12 week stage so I don't have to lie to people about not drinking! You're right, we're such stereotypical women, it doesn't help either that during the 2ww I'm so hormonal and moody that when AF does appear things seem worse than they actually are!

Do come and join the firsttime frolickers thread, would love to hear how you're doing in the coming months!

Oh and BTW I know 3 months is nothing, but try telling that to my moody 2ww grumpy self!

mumnerves I'm chuckling away over here - thank the good Lord I'm not the only one! Yes and I've been thinking about, you know: how long do I wait until I tell people, largely because they're going to want to know why I'm not armed with a hip flask of scotch and 20 Malboro Lights as is my custom (the hip flask but is not a joke, I promise).

I think I'm on the firsttimefrolickers but since officially TTC I've gone crazy-A mental for posting on MN and have rather lost track

Ps - started taking Folic Acid yesterday as per advice. The pack says "MUM2BE!" on it in massive letters. I had to shove it down the side of the supermarket trolley in case I WAS SEEN...

PMSL!
I work for a chain of chemists, had to go to a different branch to buy my vits and quickly took my chances to go to a till point where someone I knew wasn't on the till and when someone I knew came over I quickly shoved it in my bag!

I thought I was seriously going mental but thankful for MN as it's keeping me sane!
Last time I got AF Dh had to console me sobbing away on his shoulder and I think his words were " There, there, it's not a race you know!" I think I've definately lost it, and I'm not even that maternal, it's only recently that we've both thought yea, why not have kids now? But it's certainly reassuring to know I'm not alone