About to attempt TTC #3 - getting scared all those with 3 or more come and reassure me!

[whizzylala]

Hi All,
I have two DCs 6 and 4 and have ALWAYS wanted more. Decided they were handful enough so have had a gap and now think a good time as both will be at school etc. Hubby not too fussed but eventually agreed, he had said no and i thought about the third baby I would never have nearly every waking hour, I didn't nag, just said one day that I really wanted one more and now he has agreed. Trouble is I have got slightly cold feet - is it daft to have another? I have a boy and a girl (not that I think that makes a difference!), our lives are getting back to normal, we get some time to ourselves and all that. I just always imagined myself with a bigger family being one of four myself. I am worried about the finanicial side, me not working as i am bread winner we managed before but our lives didn't seem so expensive then! Also with two, grandparents etc can have them for a night or so but will they do the same with three?
Anyone out there with three like to give me some thoughts? I have already booked coil removal so better get positive again.
Thanks!
Whizzy

It's wonderful! I had ds when my girls were 6 and 4, like your dc and it worked well. The older children were at school which left me with the baby during the day which was lovely and the girls were big enough to be involved and help when they were home. It's added such a lovely dimension to the family. Yes, it's hard work and full on at times but totally worth it.

Thanks, sounds perfect, just being on this board gets me excited!
I love the idea of adding a new dimension to the family, hadn't though of it in those terms - lovely.
x

Whizzy am in exactly the same situation! Coil and everything, but for us grandparents are too far away! My two are 4 and 2. I dont know whether to get moving on #3 or leave it a while longer. Im afraid that if we do leave it a bit longer it might never happen, you know what I mean?

Will be watching this thread with interest!
Good luck to you!

Our parents are also not near - 2 hours / 1.5 hours away. I am thinking long term, having more than one sibling for me is just lovely, I want that for mine too. I think having a bigger gap could mean things are easier this time round as the older two will not be so needy and also at school full time. That is my theory, I decided when mine were 4 and 2 that I would never have another as I really struggled to cope with the two of them, it never occured to me then that you don't have to have two year gaps!!!

I had the 3rd closer together (2 yrs) and it was sheer hell!!! If I'd had my time again I would have had a larger gap like yours...although now it's lovely as they play together constantly (9,7,5)

Nice thing about a third then is that one of yrs will have a same-sex sibling. I have 3 and am always a bit that DD doesn't have a sister, but that DS1 has a brother!

I love my 3 tho they are closer in age that yrs would be (now 10, 8, 6). It is harder to arrange a pal to look after all 3, mainly because so many ppl have 2 and one of mine is left out IYSWIM.

It's not been a major problem tho - I do know some lovely friends who will have all 3 if I need help in a childcare manner. GPs will certainly have all 3, esp if there is a new baby I would think!

Good luck!